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writes:ok ... well the thing is i am starting to like this new guy i met, we are really good friends by now, but the problem is he is really into this girl who doesnt like him. Believe me, she already told him. I want him to forget her and see that he gots me now... but i think he only sees me as a friend, but sometimes he confuses me by telling me how pretty i am and stuff like that. What do you think i should do? How can i make him understand that i dont want to be only friends? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your support and advice, By the way now he likes me (: and maybe we will be going out next year. Wish me good luck
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (13 November 2007):
 It sounds like he might like you. He is at least kind and appreciates your beauty. Remember that you must be his friend first. That is how he probably sees you anyway for now. If he cares for someone else he has to be the one to decide. If his heart can't let go of her then he will not be able to give completely of himself to you otherwise.
Treat him as a good friend. Step back and let him see what he is missing in you. Give him time to realize that this other girl just isn't into him. Try dating someone else or just hang out around him and mingle in the crowd of other single males. If he is interested and he sees that someone else is about to steal you away he might decide real quickly to let her go and try to win you instead.
Be yourself. It's what you do best! He will be sure to notice. When you do things for him and you suddenly stop it could create and uneasy feeling that he could be loosing what you have to offer. It could prompt him to think twice before he walks any further in her direction.
Reach out in love and you will be forever blessed. No matter how it ends. God is with you.
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reader, Checkup Man  +, writes (26 October 2007):
 Teenage years can be tough in some ways, and being in love with someone who doesn't like you is as tough as it comes. It can cause stress, loss of appetite, sleeplessness, etc., and with no end result to show for it! I would only get really concerned if he didn't forget about her after a few months as he could get depressed. I think the time to make a move for him is when he starts to realise that he's getting nowhere and starts to feel and look a bit down. The best thing is to be good friends and let him get this girl out of his system. He will probably come to realise what a great friend you are and will want to give you his full love and attentions instesd. All the best to you. I hope it all works out!
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