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writes:My gf is 6 months pregnant and we just broke up a couple weeks ago cause i stopped loving her the way i used to and i confessed on why. Last summer we broke up for good reasons and on bad terms, we both were wrong. But i was devastated. but right after we broke up she was sleeping with my ex-roomate for a month in the same bedroom i used to live in (i moved out shortly before we broke up and he moved into my room). We got back together but i have had a hard time getting over the past. She is really sorry and even bought a trip to the bahamas (where our baby was conceived by accident). I dont want to be a visitation father but im scared i cant give her what she needs and i dont want to have any resentments towards her anymore and i want to be able to be passionate with her like i used to be, before the thoughts of them 2 together became to overcome my love for her.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (7 June 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/help-with-forgiveness.html
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reader, TimmD +, writes (7 June 2010):
 Everybody who is in a relationship has to deal with their partner's past. I know it's a little different here because it was after you two broke up, but the fact of the matter is it's now in the past. She loves you and she is having your baby. Mistakes were made on both sides, some a little worse than others. But again, they are in the past.
You don't have to pressure yourself into wanting to be as passionate as before because honestly, this isn't before. Things have changed, especially with the baby on the way. My advice is to stop trying to get back what you had. Leave the past in the past and move forward. If you love her, enjoy being with her, and want to be a family than start fresh. She wants to be with you, not him. As I said, everybody in a relationship has to deal with their partner being with an ex sexually. Yours just happens to be at a slightly different time, but it's all the same.
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