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writes:I have been talking and hanging out with a girl who lives around and hour drive away from me. Having asked her on a date, she made it clear that she was not looking for a boyfriend. However, she said we could be Friends With Benefits...I am 100% up for this, but I only lost my virginity around 6 months ago. I am not as sexually confident as her and I am afraid that I will make a fool of myself by not being able to 'perform' as well as I should. Is there any advice that can be given to help me? And will it majorly bother her if I'm not 'amazing' in bed?
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reader, Universe Man  +, writes (19 May 2010):
If it majorly bothers her, she's not worth getting worked up over anyway. If she's a great girl, she'll take it as an opportunity to broaden her own horizons by broadening yours. Either way, you've got more experience at the end of the day.
Go into it with the mindset of a confident man. Don't "be yourself"--be the sexually confident man you want to be, even if you're just playing a part at first. You will become what you want to be.
Also, if you play the part of the "friend with benefits" even better than she does--independent, casual, cool, happy--you may find her asking to be your girlfriend.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (19 May 2010):
If you're up for it, and happy to be a FWB knowing that it will go no further, then go for it. You'll be fine. Besides, if she wants to have great sex, then she will just have to be open with you as to what she likes. Have fun with her, and learn from her.
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