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writes:I am in my second trimester of pregnancy and I am finding myself becoming aroused very easily, undoubtedly an effect of hormones. But although I am physically aroused and have the desire for and ability to climax a lot stronger than before, I don't want to have sex with my husband because I feel physically unattractive. My growing stomach and stretch marks make me feel so undesirable, so even though I know that my new-found enthusiasm in the bedroom would surely keep my husband interested and impressed, I don't feel pretty enough to initiate sex, or even follow through when he initiates it, even though I desperately want the feeling. I need my psychological feelings to match my physical ones in order to thoroughly enjoy a sexual encounter. How do I overcome this lack of confidence in my appearance and have the great sex I desperately want again? (Also, my husband has reassured me many times that he finds me just as attractive in my pregnancy as he did when we first met. I am glad he does, but his reassurance did not change my feelings about my physical appearance.)
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (7 November 2015):
 Often women are incredibly beautiful when pregnant. Their complexions can be amazing. OK, your shape is a bit different but...
The thing is, how does your husband feel about you. Some men are incredibly turned on by their pregnant partners.
There is a down side. Some men don't like to couple with their pregnant partner. It's not about being ugly. It's more about disturbing the foetus, I think.
So, you just need to find out what your man feels about all of this. Get out the candles and essential oils. I wish you good luck with him and a trouble-free birth.
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (7 November 2015):
Its not unusual for a woman to feel unattractive when her body is going through so many changes.Would you consider treating yourself to some extra nice nities-having a change in your hair style and perhaps a new perfume.Right now as you say its the psychological feelings that you have to deal with.But you can do this by adding a little extra to your image-it can work wonders.Best luck NORA B.
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