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writes:I am a 18 year old girl who keeps on getting in and out of relationships, when i am in the relationship i think that everything is great for a week maybe two and then i get BORED i dont know why this happens. I have been cheated on lots of times by the same person and sometimes i think that is why, but i dont think when i break up with anyone i want to hurt them.I want sex constantly and have only gone without sex for two months the longest. What do i do?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, karinana  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 I agree with the others in that your sex drive is 100% normal. And believe me, getting a vibrator is well worth it. Every girl should have one, relationship or not.
I completely understand what you mean by getting bored with men after a week. I went through that too. I got quite depressed about it and pretty cynical about "love." Then out of the blue, I met someone and completely fell in love and it has made me reevaluate many things. Unfortunately, I can't go back in time and un-sleep with all the guys I slept with. And I don't regret it, but my cynicism did lead me to lower my standards quite a bit. Looking back, I wish I would have been more optimistic about finding love. I would have made very different decisions. Wait and see if a guy bores you or not BEFORE you sleep with him. And be safe!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): Okay, you're a teenager. You have a high sex drive.You're absolutely, 100% normal.But just because you have a healthy sex drive doesn't mean you should engage in sex with other people. Use the internet to find out information about solo activities and toys. Spice up your solo life, and maybe you'll find that your ability to retain friends of both genders will improve dramatically once sex is completely out of the picture.
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reader, tommy2k7  +, writes (3 May 2007):
 I too have a friend who has a high sex drive and she tells me she gets "fidgety" if she doesn't get it in two months, and also she tells me she can't keep a boyfriend for more than three months. Because she has a high sex drive she likes to have sex on the first date and, because lads know she has a high sex drive, they use her and then dump her.
However, I love sex and I like her a lot, and will treat her right, and know I could really love and care for her as opposed to just sex.
Now she has trouble finding a boyfriend. Where is she going wrong??
I'll probably end up with her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): First of all, get to really know the guy. Some who has the same interest as you do. Most of the time what you think as love, actually is the feeling of lust. I, too, made that same mistake! There is a website that by the name of http://www.eharmony.com where you first put your personality, likes and dislikes, ect. And they try to find a guy that matches you completely that live close to you. You might give that a try.A vibrator is a good thing to think about getting. I don't know where you live, but here in the States where I am from....there are certain states that vibrators and sex toys are illegal. One lady in the state of Texas who sold sex toys, hosting "Passion Parties" to spice up your sex life....got arrested for selling them! She lost her teaching job, fined $4,000, and 6 months in jail!! There are 6 states that have that law, and the list is growing! One thing, do not base your relationships on sex....they tend not to work out!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): Calli gives you very good advice, so I won't add to what she has said. But, I have another slant to all this and I could be wrong. But it's just a thought. Can I ask? Do you still love this ex bf who cheated on you and caused you pain? You could be very lonely and hurt. Sleeping with new guys is a destructive way to try to invigorate your soul and dealing with the pain but no one is fitting the bill for you. I think it's time for you to re-evaluate your lifestyle. Understand that you are a good person. Circumstances could be causing you to decide to use sex with different partners as a coping skill to deal with present pain. If so, then stop doing this-all you get from this is further confusion and hurt not to mention unwanted pregnancies and a host of Std's. Take a breather and think about healing and recovering completely. Sex is not a healing balm...you need help. Please consider talking to a counselor. Your family doctor would be able to steer you in the right direction. Good luck, my dear and I wish you the best of luck.
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reader, Calli  +, writes (2 May 2007):
 It sounds like you don't take much time to get to know the people you are in 'relationships' with before you start having sex with them. Relationships are about a lot more than just sex. Secondhand makes a good suggestion. You could try getting yourself a vibrator--there are lots of kinds http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vibrator_%28sensual%29--find whatever it takes to satisfy your urges.
Then take the time to REALLY get to know someone before you sleep with them. You should feel like your partner is one of the most amazing people you've ever met. Not just 'cuz he's cute ;) , but because of who he is inside, how much you enjoy spending time with him, etc. When you find someone who makes you feel like that, you won't get bored in two weeks. Trust me.
Take care, sweetie.
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reader, Secondhand_serenade +, writes (2 May 2007):
I know it sounds completely outrageous but have you tried doing things by yourself, sometimes that can curb a sexual appetite.
Get away from the people that cheat on you and find someone that you know will be faithful. When you break up with people give them a reason. Try and liven up the relationship, keep it exciting.
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