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anonymous
writes:I just started working at a new job and one of my managers is so attractive. I can't help finding myself fantasizing about being with him whenever I'm at work. I think he is attracted to me.. I'm 19 and he's in his late twenties but even despite that there's definitely a little something there, just in the way he looks at me sometimes. How do I go about subtly letting him know i'm interested without being pathetic? I know he probably wouldn't make the first move, so I want to make him realize where my mind is without it being too obvious for other co-workers, etc.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
 In most places, managers cannot (and should not) date subordinates.
I would not recommend dating the manager or any other co-worker... the break ups are so uncomfortable.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (11 April 2013):
 As Mishmash said, he might like you and he might have a sneaky look at you from time to time, but he will want to keep his job more than he will want to make a move on you!
You risk losing your job as well if you try and tell him you like him, dating co-workers is not cool and its even worse to try and date your manager, you look like a desperate brown-noser who is sleeping with the manager for a promotion!
Find some other guy to crush on, this one wont work out and will just make life too awkward at work.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Heh, from reading the title, it sounded like you wanted to birth the Baby Jesus! LOL!
Seriously though. Lay off the work relationships! There's love and then there's your livelihood, and everything you do as far as your work is concerned is part of your permanent record.
Never mix business with pleasure. It's rare when co-worker relationships grow in a healthy manner, and there's much more for you to risk.
Best to find a guy outside your work circle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): As much as you want your Manager, he probably wants to keep his job...that's why he's not making the first move. There's nothing "pathetic" in trying it on with a guy, there might be something pathetic in trying it on with your boss just because you're curious.
Save your moves for someone you actually care about and try not to get fired. Sleeping with your manager isn't a form of job security despite what you may have seen on television, it's an invitation to lose your job.
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