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writes:Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months, i love him to death and he is so good to me, he treats me like a princess, but I want him to fight with me, i want him to do something so bad i hurt. Now in my past relationship they have been, well not the best. we always fought about dumb things. And now i want him to fight with me, as im writing this i want him to cheat on me so we can fight. ive even asked him if he would cheat on me... When we do fight i well bad about it and wanna stop, but i dont... How can I fix this problem? it seems to be un fixable :/ Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2010): no offense but thats kind of messed up. personally i like and WANT my boyfriends to be nice and caring. find drama somewhere else and try to appreciate him for how perfect he really is! he deserves someone who loves him and wants him. y in the world would you want him to cheat and fight with you??????!!!!! think about how u really feel.
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reader, kaiti30 +, writes (28 December 2009):
kaiti30 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks guys... You helped ALOT! Ill try my best... Ima already kinda feeling better about this all...
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reader, doom  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 i think you are abit adventure girl,and you are allready bored because he care and is good to you.Try finding your type of guy, and don't hurt the good onces.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 There is something easy about a bad relationship, you know what it is going to be like and you know who to blame and you can always hope things get better. There is a goal, something to look forward to, even if it never happens. Cake tomorrow.
In a happy relationship, there is no drama, if you have a bad day, you can blame it on nobody but yourself. And in a way, the only thing in the future is for things to get worse.
After all, that is what happend in all the past relationships, so why should this one be different? You want him to cheat, to hurt you, because you think that is going to happen anyway and you just want to get it over with.
You also know how to deal with someone who hurts you. But this guy who doesn't, that is new and unfamiliar and therefor scary. Do you fear it could all be to good to be true?
It sounds like you need to deal with your past. To accept that even if bad things happened and you couldn't trust them, you can't carry this forward into a new relationship.
You need to put your distrust and fears behind you, and accept that this relationship might just be the one that works out, if only you let it.
This guy is not your ex. Don't let your past poison your future.
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reader, CraziiBeautiful  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Hun after 8 weeks you want big promblems?
I think you need to think about if you are emotionally ready to be with this guy.
You say hes caring and nice but you wanna turn him into a jerk? Sounds like you dont really appriciate him for what he is.
Hun sounds like you want the drama rather than the relationship. Let him go if you cant see him foor what he is!!
xoxo
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reader, Jager +, writes (28 December 2009):
I think your being daft. Your relationship well get to a point all by its self where you are "fighting" what i think you mean is arguing. There is no need at all to try and create arguments be greatful that its bliss because in any relationship that lasts more than 6 months there will arguments and dissagreements.
You need to remember that this guy isn't your ex. Dont try and create arguments just because it feels normal because its habitual.
Good luck
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