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writes:I met this guy about 2 years ago and we really hit it off. We dated for about 6 months then we broke up because he wasn't spending time with me and I cheated. We were broken up for about 3 months, then he called and we started back talking. We spent time together and he started acting funny. His phone would ring and he wouldn't answer so I snooped through his phone and found other numbers and text messages.He found out and became really upset with me and told me that he wasn't ready for a committed relationship I told him that I wasn't either but I told him a lie. I want more from him, but I don't know how to get his attention back. He's always out clubbing and hanging with his friends. should i tell him how I feel or do I just let things go on like this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the advice. I really appreciate your honesty. It made me realize that I am truly worth more than I am receiving. I know that I deserve to be loved and I have to start by loving myself first. P.s. I did not beg him to come back and you're right why did he come back if he wasn't ready.
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (12 March 2008):
 Hi there. I personally think that if someone isn't ready for committment, then you can't force them into it (unfortunately). If you stay in this "uncommitted" relationship with him you will only feel unhappy, as he will continue clubbing and chatting to other girls and having casual sex with you, and it sounds like you want much more from him. He doesn't want to be with just you, I don't think you will be able to change his mind (Unless he realises how great you are himself and thats when he will be ready).
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2008): You need to talk it out.The fact that you cheated shows there was something lacking in the relationship since the beginning...he has really hurt you hasn't he? and he is certainly not ready to accept what you have to offer...you !why stick on with him ?bcos he is fun ?bcos you have unbelievable sex?becos you are lonely ? bcos you feel a connectionlady you need a man who can give you back all that you offer...you deserve it !!!!and what does he think coming back if he is not ready for a relationship???did you beg him to ?be open with him....lay your cards on the table if he cannot give you what you want ask him to get out ....you are better off with yourself than with a man who cannot meet upto your expectations
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