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writes:Hello dear cupid. I have sitution here with my boyfriend. We're not married but we live together for 4 years. He told me he want to marry me one day and have kids. He is 31 years old and I'm 23. I want to have kids now.I mean I love him.I do everything for him. I'm ready for next step.I don't know what waiting for.Do you think he doesn't love me? Or he is sure what he want?His family doesn't like me (his mom, dad and other family members). I don't even do anything to them. They said I have attitude.I don't know. My question is what can I do now? Tell him to stop wasting my time or just waiting.It's been 2 years now already I try to have a kid with him. He said next year sometime, he said next 6 months. I don't know what to do. Do you think he has another woman that he likes? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2011): get married first, kids need stability and they also need 2 parents who live together and who have made a commitment to stay together. you are young, you have plenty of time for kids. live your life, go on holidays, try something you've always meant to do, take up an unusual hobby. as all these things will be harder with a kid in tow
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reader, mandi.puff.86 +, writes (18 April 2011):
I wanted a baby really bad with my husband before we were married. He wanted to wait. I was really angry, but he just wanted to do things the "right" way. Get married and what not first. and he wants to get our lives in order and make sure its what we really want. Having kids is a big deal. We're getting ready to try now, and i'm glad we did.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (18 April 2011):
 This doesn't sound at all like a problem with not loving you enough or loving someone else. Everyone has their own timeframe for settling down or not settling down. You need to sit down and have a real talk about this. Neither of you is right or wrong, it's just differences in your life goals. Set a time when you truly want to have children, figure out why it's better to wait or not wait. It's possible he will simply never want children or wants to wait longer than you are willing to wait, in which case you need to find someone else who is more in tune with your schedule.
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (18 April 2011):
For now, my suggestion is to forget about a child with this guy. Something is amiss here. Grab your coat and go out into the big world and see what else is available for a young woman your age. Surely, there is someone who will adore you. There's quite an age difference in you and your guy. Also if his family does not like you, then I surely would not hang around and bring a child into the picture. Life is too short for extra problems! Good luck.
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