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writes:This is my situation. I feel i am ready to have a baby now, my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years feels he is not. he wants to wait until he is 30. when he will 30, i'll be 33. i already have a 4 year old with an ex. i know i'm still young, but my biological clock is ticking, i will be 27 this sept and i feel i will never have anymore kids. i want at least one more
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni would never trick him into it. i don't have my son, i was tricked out of my rights. one of the reasons i don't want to wait is because i have arthritis and tendernitis throughout my body. and it's only steadily getting worse, i wanted to have a baby now, because i'm not going to be able run around after a toddler in my thirties because of my arthritis
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reader, justquestions +, writes (4 January 2011):
As others have said here, you are not too old to wait awhile. However, think about something else. If you somehow "tricked" him into getting you pregnant (and I know you wouldn't do this) what assurance would you have that he would stay with you? Even if he reluctantly agreed, what assurance would you have that he would stay with you? Do you want to be raising two children by yourself? I think you should wait until he's ready to marry you before you decide to have a child with him. Yes, I know you may still end up divorced again a half dozen or so years down the road, but at least he would have made a commitment to you first. Reluctantly deciding to have a baby with you is no committment on his part. Get him to marry you first. Your child(ren) deserve it as well.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (4 January 2011):
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well one of you is not gonna be happy with the outcome are you? maybe after long discussion and careful consideration you could compromise and ask him to cut that waiting time down by half? He is young to have a baby now and i am glad he knows his own mind. are you both financially ready to have a baby together? is the relationship solid enough? its a very very big commitment and he is right to want to take plenty of time over it
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2011): Both of you are being a bit selfish. You can't force the man who doesn't want children to have them with you. And he shouldn't expect you to do it all on his schedule.
The thing is, 24 might be too young in his eyes to have children. He's already taking care of you and your child(I'm assuming) and maybe he doesn't feel established enough to have his own children.
Either way having children is an issue you guys should have discussed from the beginning. When two people are ready to welcome a life in the world is the ideal time to have a baby. Your only options are to wait or to walk.
There are people 40 years old who are still trying to get pregnant with their 1st child, and there are people 17 years old with three unwanted kids. Appreciate the position you are in and the people you already have in your life. Your child will come when he/she is ready.
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