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writes:Hi So far last week my bf of a yr broke up with me He is in the army and lives down south His kids live up north with his ex Because of the army job he only gets one weekend off a month to see them. He cant cope with this and has decided to give it another go with his ex so that he can be with the kids more. She would then move down here with the kids. I understand why he needs to do this Kids are the most importand thing but he was my first bf and its killing me (Im in my 20's and he his early 30's) I also know that more than going back to his ex he is going back to the kids We are still gonna be friends and nothing can disuade me from this as i still very much want to be a part of his life and him be a part of mine I know its hard but id rather have him in my life like this then nothing at all We have said we will be friends for life as we get on so well and neither of us really wants to split up We will hopefully be seeing each other weekly. My prob is im worried of driving him mad at the min He keeps telling me he is always there for me and I can talk to him and i had a good handle on that but yesterday i was out at a fun day and they kept playing love songs I rang him quite a few times yesterday as this really upset me I also woke up this morning upset and text him. He said he could talk if i wanted and we had a lil chat. He is such a nice sweet guy and up until yesterday I thought i was handeling things I dont wanna push him away but feel as tho i need contact with him I actually have issues with contact and am a born worrier It sounds silly but if someone doesnt reply to a text or answer a call i worry constantly till i here from them that they are hurt or they dislike me I know this sounds insecure and i am. So when i text this guy and he doesnt reply i panick that he has had enough and doesnt want to be friends I need some help Im in so much pain I cry and feel as tho i cant breath I dont really see a future without him
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reader, PoSiOnKiSS +, writes (25 June 2007):
 I have to disagree with you, there are other ways in seeing kids. its ridiculous for couples to get back together just for the kids, because there an ex for a reason, and so there going to argue about things, his ex will be jealous that your still in his life and youll be jealous that theyll be going out and doing family things. You have to let go of this man if he cares so little about you he will just up and leave you for his kids. its not always about the kids, yeah theyll have there parents with them and theyll feel like a family but in todays society its just not how it happens. my dad lives down south and i hardly ever see him, and my mother remarried. i couldnt stand my mother and father together, they just argue all the time and it does my head in. so whatever reason you now ex has gone back to his ex is going to creep back up and cause problems. i was in a relationship with a man and everytime his ex called him and told him there child, either had a headache was had just sneezed and she didnt know what to do, even if we were in the cinema or at a resteraunt he`d just up and leave to and be with the child, and thats just wrong! Your going to have to forget about this man and find someone who isnt tied down with kids and let him spoil you rotten and take you away places were you can relax and not have to worry about anything. Your guy will soon realise how wrong he was to go back to a loveless relationship. Dont stick around with this guy, i totally understand what your going through and since i have gotten on with my life i have had a great time and had no worries! Hope this helps x
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