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writes:i'm 18 and i want to get pregnant so bad, my boyfriend came in me but it wasnt my ovalating date, a week after he knew it was my ovalating day an he didnt come in me, but a drop of sprem hit my vagina, after that he put on a condom when he was done thru it in the bin, 5 mins after i inserted the condom in my vagina hopin that some sprem was alive, i'm hopin to get pregnant.....do u think i could be, remember it was my ovalting day
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): I just recently started dating a person who because of some heart issues has problems getting an erection from time to time. He, just last week, was telling me about meeting and falling in love with someone he met online who lived an ocean away. She only visited him once and their intercourse was oral. After she returned home she told him she was pregnant and became pregnant by going to the bathroom after he came and inserting the semen into the vagina. She even has shown pictures of her and a baby on the internet and posting that it was his baby. First of all, I think this is the absolute CRAZIEST and most DESPERATE action by a woman I have ever heard of. While the odds of her having a baby by him would probably be pretty slim my thought was what if by some off the wall chance it was. Then, he would have to go through a lot of expense to prove/disprove because he definitely wouldn't want a lunatic raising any child but especially his. It makes me think what a world we have come to live in and what so many are capable of doing to "hold on" to someone when it appears not to be working out. This is so,so, sad!
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (31 December 2009):
 I pretty much ascribe that anyone who gets pregnant purposefully when they know that their partner does not want a baby is about the same as lying about being raped by an innocent guy in order to get revenge or like lying in court that their child's father has been diddling them to get custody. The ends don't justify the means, whether you want to get pregnant or not.
This is totally a "going to hell" kind of lie in the first degree.
Changing the course of someone else's life and bringing a child into the world under these circumstances is just plain wrong.
Sleeping with a girl who has no morals and absolutely no compunction about committing such a heinous act as this; totally stripping the other person of their rights, their free will and foisting a totally innocent child into the middle of all this makes you the worst potential Mother-of-all-time - one with absolutely no morals or values.
This also should stand as a warning to guys out there to only sleep with someone who you COULD imagine having a child with - because - HEY - that's what sex is for - to make babies! If you dip your wick into a hornet's nest - don't be too surprised with the outcome (and no pun intended). I'm sorry if this sounded harsh, it was purely intended to...
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): yes i do think it can becasue even if the sperm is not in your vagina it can still get u pregnat
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): This is just sick!! Your going to know the truth if you are pregnant on how it happened and pretty much lie to the daddy, the child and yourself for the rest of the childs life. Sort your life out before you create another life and be sensible about it!!
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reader, wise aunt  +, writes (30 December 2009):
First of all, providing for a child is something that most 18 year olds are unequipt to do. Do you have a job? Do you pay for an apartment? Do you own a car, insurance etc. Babies are about $10,000 per year to start. If you think that welfare will foot the bill, you will have a sad awakening. They will contribute to food and you can get donations for clothes, BUT that is no way to live. In addition, lying to your partner will probably guarantee he will leave. Think about what you are going to do to this child. You are acting selfishly.
I suggest you find out why you want a baby so badly. You are but a child yourself. You should go to college and enjoy other people your age who are preparing for being an adult, getting married and raising a family.
Please reply to your question and tell us all WHY you want to be pregnant
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): To the coward and the bully anonymous poster that believes wringing your hands and saying "there there" it will be alright, you just made a little mistake to someone such as this 18 to 21 year old about her deliberate actions to trap her boyfriend by becoming pregnant and not calling her out on her disturbed behavior but has the nerve to call out an Aunt who posted her "disgust" with this woman as a jerk had better go have her head pried out from her back side....I am surprised she can walk at all what with her shoulders up under her butt like that.....I mean really, some people.
It is people like you, parents like you that raise irresponsible spoiled entitled children who remain adolescent forever!
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (29 December 2009):
 I'm sorry I know I was rude, but I think you need the truth and I'm sorry to say but that is the truth, you can't sugar coat it in anyway. Its straight forward. Maybe you just made a mistake and it will never happen again. I'm typically the last person that judges anyone, but this crosses the line. You potentially made a baby, that may or may not have a father because you betrayed him in order to get pregnant in the first place. Thats not fair to the baby, and its not really fair to you to have to go at it alone. But when you do something like that what doyou honestly expect? I apologize for saying I hope you miscarry, but I don't think you have any idea what it takes to raise a baby. As a teenager you can't just decide that one day you want to have a baby and expect people to stick around and help you, although they probably would out of the kindness of their hearts. And to you anonymous, what makes you any better than me? An 18 yr old knows what they are doing, don't baby her. As far asI'm concerned you are the one acting childish.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/pregnancy/AN00281
Sperm can live a couple of hours outside the body. To those of you who spout facts like "sperm die within minutes" you'd better have some references to back them up, otherwise you could be giving advice that will get someone pregnant. Just because you believe something is true, doesn't make it so. Speak from knowledge, not guessing.
To the poster, your actions are sneaky and dishonest. If you want to have a baby, go find a man who wants to have a baby with you. Are you really so low as to lie and cheat to get something you want? Do you really want to be that kind of person? I hope your hormones right themselves and you recover your sense of decency and fair play.
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reader, SavvySavannah456 +, writes (29 December 2009):
 I highly doubt you're pregnant. Sperm can only live without certain things for a short while. And a trash bin isn't the right place.
I won't go trolling about whether what you did was wrong or right. Because it has already happened and it's your life. But be careful about trying to get yourself pregnant when your boyfriend doesn't want (or isn't ready) to be a father. It can lead to many trust issues. It could also make many difficulties growing up (who would take care of the baby once it's born? Single parenting is hard (but possible) and if you press charges for him helping you with the baby it would cause a very 'dark' life for the child. Not to mention your boyfriend would be very upset if he's in school or college still. It would affect his education very much, and possible throw him into a depression.
If you aren't pregnant already please consider all the possibilities affecting him and the child-to-be before you attempt to get pregnant again.
Hope I helped,
with 3
-Vannah
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): There is truly something seriously w.r.o.n.g. with your thinking.
You really need to reaccess what it means being a woman and adult really means.
Meg2989 pretty much covered all the issues.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (28 December 2009):
You might be pregnant; but if you are not maybe you should think carefully about this. I know you probably feel like you and your boyfriend love each other and he would support you if you were pregnant. But I would urge you to try rather do things properly, maybe get some kind of formal long term commitment and plan this baby together first. A baby right now would stop your dreams, stop him from achieving his goals as well. A baby needs full time care, lots money for doctors, hospitals and blood/urine tests for yourself and the baby. Babies are not always happy and well; they scream through the night for no reason, they get sick; all 3 of my children have been hospitalized for emergency care with one of them being so sick that doctors said there is nothing more they can do. He pulled through but because he was born in a marriage I had his fathers support and all our families. If you force a child on your relationship don't think it will make him want to commit. Please can you post an update to explain to us why you are doing this so that we can understand better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): they've said it all so i'll just say i agree. And yes you need to see a doctor and get some mental help, this was clearly insanity. Mal
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reader, CraziiBeautiful  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 Hun thats stealing a baby.
He will always resent a baby he didnt plan!
You need to find a man who does want a baby with you, Babys deserve to be wanted and planned when they come into this world hun.
I hope you can see this. Before its to late. Its not fair on the man, its not fair on the baby and hun its not fair on you because he will never trust you.
xoxo
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (28 December 2009):
 That was a sneaky thing to do, and very wrong.
Why did you try to get pregnant, when it´s obvious that he ISN´T ready for a KID?????
Are you trying to trap him into marriage?
That´s cruel!! How would you feel if you were a kid who was brought into the world as leverage to coerce a guy into marriage? Like shit, huh... well that is how that kid is going to feel should you be pregnant.
What day did this happen? Perhaps the conception hasn´t ocurred yet... I´m not telling you to have an abortion because I don´t believe in that, but there are procedures to prevent conception from ocurring, you need to go the doctor NOW.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): That is just WRONG - Big Time!
ONE of the reasons I left a relationship of 18 years was because I want another child and my ex would not agree to that commitment.
I could have taken steps (or more aptly not) to ensure I did just 'ooopppps' fall pregnant, but I could not live with myself if I deliberately imposed a situation as serious as being a parent upon someone who was unwilling to go there again.
I may never have another child, and at my age - time is definately becoming more of a factor, ...and I do get sad about it on occassion - esp when bubba's are around ..but U know what, .. I would far rather that sense of something missing (another child) than the knowledge of entrapping another in to being a baby-daddy against their will/wishes.
If your situation is not sitting with you for any reason, then I suggest you get out of it. Who says there is not another guy around the corner who would be head over heels to consensually have a child with you? Maybe not! You won't know tho unless you close one door on a situation already known, and allow another to open and take you god only knows where.
It is just not fair or right to place that much responsibility upon another if you know that is not what they want or can take steps to avoid it happening. You tho, are going above and beyond and deliberately sabotaging this poor guys attempts as contraception.
Bad, wrong, immoral, selfish, ick, yuk, what more can I say besides have some integrity and don't do it to the poor guy. How would you like it if parenthood was imposed upon you despite your best efforts to avoid it?
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reader, ChantillyMarie  +, writes (28 December 2009):
I have to admit, that was a pretty stupid thing to do.
And since when did you have the right, to do that?
For your sake, I hope you tell him.
And if you're pregnant (Which you could be.)
I hope he doesn't dump you.
But seriously...
That just isn't right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): That is such a wrong thing to do!! ThAt is horrid think about what your doing to your bf!!!!! Stupid. You can't bring a child into the world like that!!!!
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reader, meg2989 +, writes (28 December 2009):
Omfg!!! Where the hell are your morales, that is horrible!!! He uses condoms because he doesn't want you to get pregnant, don't you realize that?!!! Of course you could be pregnant! I hope you aren't because that is not the right way to have a baby, and tyou doing that just says what kind of a mother you'd be. You are not fit to be a mother if this is how you are going about it. You've defied your boyfriend's trust, how could you? How dare you? If you do end up pregnant I hope he leaves you, I know he would if he knew you did that. You are a damn looney, you better pray you are not pregnant, no wait actually you need to take the "plan B" pill right now. It will make you start your period so you don't end up pregnant. You are the kind of girl that turns guys into jerks because they can't trust you. There should be a law against this kind of thing, infact I think there is. Its too bad no one can forse you to give up your baby after its born because you did this this way. But then it would probably tear your boyfriend up becaus thats his baby too. I can't believe you would do that to anyone!!!! I know you are probably rolling your eyes, because you are the type of person that gets what you want and nothing can stand in your way. If you keep this up, reality's going to slap you right in th face and I hope it makes you bleed. I pray to god you are not pregnant, for the baby, for your boyfriend and for you, so that you can get some mental help. No person thats "right in the head" would do this kind of thing. You have some issues you need worked out. You are absolutly insane and you make me ashamed to be a woman, doing something like that. I bet you didn't even think it through and have no plan to take care of this baby, unless you thing your bf will be there for you and the baby. Even though I believe every man should man up and be there for his baby, in this case I hope he leaves you. Or gets custoday of the baby and leaves you. You NEED to go get some therapy chick. I'm so angry and repulsed by your actions, you are sick! I'll pray you aren't pregnant, or that you miscarry. Good damn luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): You could be pregnant (stranger things have happened). Or you could catch some infection from taking some liquid out of a dustbin and putting it in your vagina.
You obviously know you are wrong and really, really dishonest. If you want to get pregnant so bad, without a man's involvement in the process, why not go to a sperm bank?
Getting pregnant usually ends in having a baby. Its not a pretty bump that goes away. Have you planned it, thought about it?
Imagine trying to come 'clean' with your child about this and telling that s/he was conceived out a dustbin!
It took real effort not to go 'ugggghhhhh' in response to your question. And now the keyboard feels dirty. Please wake up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): How dare you do such a thing!!!!!!!! Thats NOT cool!!! If he doesnt want a baby then you are basically ruining his life!! Do you really want to bring a baby into the world like this????????????
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): You are crazy. This is absolutely not cool or ok. I hope for your boyfriend's sake you are not pregnant. What the hell did you think you were doing? If he finds out he did this he will just leave you. This was a very stupid idea.
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reader, christian L. +, writes (28 December 2009):
There may be a possabiliy that you may be pregnant!
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