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writes:So there's this guy who goes to my school and we've fancied each other for years, and we dirty text quite a bit, and last night I slipped out that I really wanna f**k him, and that I'm not the type of girl to sleep with just anyone but I'd make a serious exception for him because he's so fine and I've wanted to do him for a long time.He text back and said 'Wow. Worlds best comment I'll ever recieve. I'll have to think about it man because I've still got the v card x'I had no idea he was still a virgin, it doesn't bother me, but I know he'll want his first time to be special and I feel a bit silly now.I know he's thinking about it now, but all night I couldn't stop thinking about doing him.I don't know what to do!Should I tell him forget what I said or should I just wait and see what he decides?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): You need to think about what you want out of this. Just sex, just a one time thing or do you want a relationship with him? It kind of sounds like you two have some chemistry but that you're wanting just something physical and he might not be feeling the same way. Most people don't want to lose their virginity to just some random person they aren't in a committed relationship with. There are some who do and that's fine. I'm just saying that you should talk to him before you do have sex though and find out if he's wanting just sex or a relationship. But as others said, don't take back the offer just because he's a virgin that will kill his ego. Talk to him and find out what he wants and what you're willing to give. I'd bet that he is wanting a relationship with you and that's why he's considering giving you his virginity.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
So wait for him to decide. If he says yes, give him the time of his life. You have nothing to worry about at all.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (2 April 2010):
 You made the offer... he'll feel rejected if you turn him down. But it sounds like you were thinking sex, sometimes virgins can mistake lust for love. Be clear about what your offering and what it is that you can give.
Unfortunately with virgins you do have a duty to make his first time special, it's a memory that he will carry for the rest of his life.
You can back out, tell him that his virginity is special, that you feel overwhelmed to do things right and you don't know what will happen if you disappoint him. Tell him it's just a sex thing, and it's better for him to find a girl who loves him for his very first time. .. some lines like that which puts the blame all on your shoulders, but still makes him feel sexy and desirable should do the trick.
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reader, huffygirl88  +, writes (2 April 2010):
You should wait to see what he decides and then go from their to see if it gets any better. Hope this helpped.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Do you have feelings for him? Because if not then don't go there. Like you said, it'd be his first time and he'd want it to be special. Often if two people sleep together outside of a relationship, one develops an emotional attachment and the other one doesn't. You don't want that to happen do you? Let his first time be special if he wants it to be, because it's only fair.
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