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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 months and she recently found out she is pregnant, she wants to terminate. She's also only 22 and says she's not ready to have a child. When she told me I didn't talk to her for a week then told her I want to raise our child, we argued and broke up. I love her so much and want to support her decision but she doesn't believe me because when we were fighing I told her if she terminated, it would be the end of our relationship, she won't talk to me or take my calls.How do I tell her I'm sorry and that she means everything to me and I love her more than anything and want to be here for her?
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (26 January 2009):
hell no you did not say that!
at the end of the day you have only been with her for 3 months. she is only 22 and if she is not ready for a baby then she should have the choice to decide what she wants to do!
yes it is as much your responsibility as it it hers, but instead of threatening to ditch her, help her through this. she is obviously scared. you should support her in whatever she wants to do. it's her body at the end of the day.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (26 January 2009):
Well you said those things and you stormed off and refused to speak to her for a week.
This hardly screams "responsible boyfriend / father." It's no wonder that she is planning the future with out you in mind.
Write her a letter and post it through her letter box. Explain everything and if you are happy for her to make the choice about whether to keep the child or not.
After that you just have to back off and let her know that you want to be with her and will be there for her no matter what she decides.
Good Luck!! xx
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