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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend told me a secret about two of his friends, and made me promise to absolutely not tell a soul.I really messed up. I was blackout drunk and told one of my best friends that secret. I feel incredibly guilty because I know I really fucked up and violated his trust, but I also believe that she won't tell anyone - I've told her my own secrets and she hasn't told anyone, and I made it clear to her that this could very well jeopardize my relationship with my boyfriend if she told anyone or if he found out I'd told her.What should I do?
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (13 July 2014):
 Hmm.. if you were black out drunk you wouldn't remember telling this, BE honest. You told her and that is that. Being drunk is not an excuse. And not to be rude I think you told her because you either felt a need to share the "burden" or you wanted to be "interesting" by knowing this fact.
What do you do now? YOU talk to your friend first. You make sure she understand what you passed on to her is STRICTLY between you two.
And in the future, don't drink if you can't control yourself while drunk and maybe, if you BF wants to tell you something else that is "top secret" ask him NOT to share.
You might want to consider coming clean with your Bf and own your own actions.
This happens. Learn from it, and don't do it again.
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reader, Mark1978  +, writes (13 July 2014):
 What do you do? Don't drink so much in future that you spill the beans about peoples personal secrets. You acted immaturely and betrayed the trust given to you by your BF.
You need to be more sensible about your drinking in future and try a lot harder to be sensible and mature about information given to you in confidence. As for whether she tells anyone else, well I hope she isn't the type to get drunk and blurt things out like you did.
Mark
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