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writes: I am interested in a girl at work who is Hispanic and I am white. She has a live-in boyfriend, and the two of them have a little girl togather. But a few months ago she initiated contact with me and began to flirt openly with me. This tells me that her boyfriend may not mean as much to her as I first thought.Since all of this began, I have told her how I feel. But because of the work situation, we tend to keep things closed and between us only.She speaks English well, but I recently found out that she does not understand written English, only a few words here and there. I do not understand Spanish at all.Well, over the last few months I have been partially communicating to her through letters and notes, since all of this is happening at work, and our co-workers tend to be nosy types. She has always responded positive to my advances, and I have even gone so far as to give her a necklace and earrings to prove to her my intentions.The problem is, when I found out she doesn't read English very well, I figured all of my notes and letters had been a wasted effort. When I found out there was a language barrier, I did ask her if she knew what I had been telling her, and she replied with a really positive "Yah!", smiling and looking at me.The question I have, which is the confusing part for me, is why didn't she tell me a long time ago that she didn't understand my notes and letters? It makes me feel like I have been conducting a one-sided relationship all of this time, even though her body language has always been postive towards my actions.She has not said in so many words what she thinks or feels towards me in return. It makes me feel like she really isn't interested.Is there a possibility she is just liking the attention and her and her boyfriend are getting along well? Having her cake and eating it too?It's just puzzling why she never mentioned not understanding what I had written in those notes and letters.On a few occassions I have brought the subject up about her needing to tell me if she is not really interested in me, since I don't want to let her string me along for no reason. Yet, she seems to avoid the subject and never gives me an answer one way or the other as to whether or not she likes or does not like me. Does that mean she doesn't know herself what she wants? Or does that simply mean like I suspect, that she may just be having fun?Any insight would be appreciated.
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reader, Virginiaac +, writes (21 December 2005):
You have answered your own question. This lady, because of her lack of experience in English, has not realised the depth of emotion you have put into your written communications. Do you really want to embark on anything which could ruin a partnership where a small child is involved? Turn away, find somebody unattached and interested in you. This really is a dead end.
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