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writes: I have a great neighbour as a friend. Unfortunately she is beginning to vist us at least twice a week and waits right up until dinner is being served up so that you feel you have to ask her if she wants some. I want to keep her friendship, I enjoy her company, but I feel that by visiting us so often and virtually expecting to be fed each time is beginning to make my husband and me argue with each other. He doesn't mind, I do.What should I do?
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (21 December 2005):
 Hi Virginiacc, u have got yourself in a tight situation here. i would be confused myself.
If u do value her friendship then u have to be careful what u say to her.This is just my opinion really but what i would do if its getting late is to tell her that she has to go now that i have alot of things to do.it wont be a lie cos u probably need to cook or clean.thank her for coming and tell her u will call or meet with u later.
Another way is that u could probablly hint her in a way.maybe tell her,wow its gettiing late or oh my God its five o clock already e.t.c.
Goodluck maybe someone here can add more to help.
Have a merry xmas and new yr.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): Change the time you eat dinner
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2005): First off, talk to your husband calmly. Make sure he understands why you are feeling so annoyed, then perhaps he won't get so frustrated. Your husband comes before this neighbor, right?
When you and your husband have spoken, suggest that when she next comes round, don't offer her anything to eat. Talk to your husband, and try not to include her in the conversation. Eventually, she'll get the message that you don't want her to come in every dinner time.
If she doesn't get the picture, then just gently ask her if she could knock next time she comes, because barging into a neighbor's house isn't always appreciated!
If she carries on, tell her that you want to keep your friendship with her, but you don't want her barging into your house like this. If you keep on and on at her, trying not to sound too rude, she'll get the message eventually.
Have a great christmas, hope you don't have to share your christmas dinner with certain people! XXXXX
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