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writes:Hi everyone, I recently turned 18 and i have a big problem and i am looking for some advice. i have been having sex with this 24year old guy since i am 15years old. I recently got pregnant and my mom forced me to have an abortion. anyway i really want to get out of this relationship because he has been using me for too long. the only time he speaks to me is just after we have sex and that is only to ask me when he will get to have sex with me again. he dosen't allow me to speak to any other guy but he has sex with many women. he tells me that if i don't give it up to him freely he will take it from me. he has raped me on many occasions and i have to do it when he wants to. i am afraid that i might get an std as he is so promiscuious. After i had the abortion, he knew that i was hurting but he all he wanted to know when next we can have sex. he hits me and offers me to his friends like i am some toy. he makes me drink, smoke weed and do whatever he wants. it has gotten to the point that when he asks me when he can get to have sex with me i say "whenever you want" just so he won't get upset. i am tired and i want to move on with my life. i thought that he loved me at first but i know that he has been using me - for far too long and i let him do whatever he wants with me. i thought that pleasing him was the only way to make him love me, but now i just want out. do you think i am overacting or that he will cahnge.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2007): This is not something you should deal with, i just turned 16 and i have been dating a 20 year old his birthday is in late feb., and mine is in late august. You need to get something better than that, he will never change until he is much older, but this is not somthing worth waiting for, if you stay with him any longer, you will have big problems with anyone else you ever try and be with who will really love you this is not good at all, leave him now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2007): I cant believe you have put up with this behaviour for so long. Thank goodness you didnt have his baby (although I dont agree your mom forced you to abort it, that should have been your descission)Do not settle for this any longer, you are being treated like a peace of meat, like a hooker almost. this cant be making you feel great about yourself and he certainly doesnt love you.I think you should definately leave him no matter what he calls you or what he threatens to do. get back to the safety of your family and in time you will find someone so much better that will love you uncontrollably and treat you right. If you can find the strength within yourself I would report this man for his behaviour, mainly so if anything happens in the future, his record tells the police what he is like. I wish you a very happy future, with someone that appreciates you. Also you need time to yourself right now to mentally recover from your abortion. Its easily said and done but the way it can make you feel about yourself can be quite damaging. I feel your abortion in this case was a good descission as now at least you dont have to be in touch with this vile excuse for a man and you dont have to look at a child that reminds you of this man each day.
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