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writes:Okay, so I'm 15 years old and I am feeling this attraction to my teacher, thing is I feel like he knows, but is returning the feeling. It all started as a joke, my friends and I would make fun of our teachers, make petty jokes because we have some decent looking teachers within our school, but then, things seemed to change. I've never had him as a teacher and we've only talked a few times but now I feel this chemisty, or sexual tension growing between usBefore you say I am making the situation larger than it really is, or tell me to get over myself hear me out. It began with a causal smile everytime we'd see eachother, but the smile turned it to a suductive stare. Everytime I walk past him, look back at him, he gives me this stare and we keep eye contact for like three seconds or more than shyly look away, but then continue on. One time, it was just me and him walking down the hall, and he got close to me and just gave me the, "I want you and you want me too," look and I then said, "What," curious about his look, and he just looked me up and down and said, "Oh nothing, just looking. And then smiled again." This "look" has been happeneing frequently and my friends have been noticing. One in particular noticed the look we gave one another and said, "I saw that. What was that look? You two have something going on?" That noticable. And when we talk alone, he'll tell me thugs about himself, and whenever I have him look ove my work he makes comments like. "Oh course your writing is amazing, or course I expect nothing less from a person like you." But never makes comments like that to my friends. One time, I was in class across from him and he kept staring at me, both my friends around me noticed he then called me over there and we talked about some paper he wanted to read. As if ge wasn't leaning on me enough then, he found another excuse to get to me and just gazed in my eyes. The worst part of it is, I'm beginning to flirt back and want him back. We give eachother "Look back" and I just don't know what all this means. And whenever I'm talking to another male teacher he gets jealous And makes an excuse to stand by me or become involved in the convorsation. Once he was talking and giving yhe teacher U was talking to directions to his house but kept lookig at me. I find myself more and more attracted to him, but I play it off as a joke. Is he really flirting with me, if so what do I do? Because I find myself looking in his blue eyes more and more and just craving him. Please don't make fun of me, I'm just seeking answers.
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reader, HurdlerHottie (: +, writes (27 March 2010):
HurdlerHottie (: is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone.
As for Mish Mash, it won't allow me to email you
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reader, Mish mash  +, writes (26 March 2010):
I understand how you feel! My science teacher does the same things all the time and I started to 'crave his love' I can't really say much as I am new to this site and my question is priety much like yours! All I can really say is just be carefull and I know it is easier said than done but just remember it's not only you so don't feel alone in this situation! :)
If you want to talk feel free to send me a message! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2010): I didn't read your whole question carefully, to be honest, as I see no point in doing so. I can relate all to well to what you're going through. I myself am an adolescent girl who has gotten close with a male teacher, and I'll tell you that it didn't end well. If you truly, truly care about him then I beg you not to go on with this 'craving'. Just read my story and learn from my mistake.
The farthest we'd gone was holding hands, he gave me rides, we hung out in his classroom until dark, and he took me out to the movies one time as well. You think you're alone with him, but there are people watching. You think that your friends' teasing and comments won't be taken seriously, but they're heard loud and clear by other adults. You think that your flirting and closeness won't lead to any suspicions, but I'm telling you that someone will notice.
I was called out of class to see investigators. Someone had tipped them off. My friends were interviewed as well, and the principal sat right next to me. All the while, he remained oblivious, and they forbade me to tell him. I had to live with the guilt and the betrayal. Do you know how awful it felt for me to just cut him off? He was so hurt. They told me to stay away, and I had no choice to follow their orders.
He never touched me, and that's important to realize. He's not my teacher either; we're friends. But the fact is that I got close to him. I looked at him as both an older brother and a potential boyfriend. He was everything to me. I'm leaving next year, and I could have just waited.... but I got impatient, and this is what I get.
AND HE STILL DOESN'T KNOW. He thinks that I just left him in the dust. I'm not allowed to say anything! It's the worst feeling in the world. And guess what? I lost one of my best friends.
I'm begging you to take my advice and just leave him alone. My guy will be approached by the investigators one of these days - it's only a matter of time before they take action. You may not have gone so far with your own teacher, and I'm telling you to stop while you can. If you were truly meant to be, then you'd be together in the future. Life takes its course, but don't forget that you're still in control.
I only wish that I had known, but now I'm forced to live with the consequences. I broke his heart, got him in trouble, and am now a miserable wreck. I fell in love with him. He may not have felt as strongly, but I know that he looked at me as a close friend. Please don't end up like me. Maybe I'll be able to fix things in the future, but for now our relationship is over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): HurdlerHottie,
Boy, I've been there before! Okay, there are two sides to the coin. On one hand, if the idea of this teacher liking you makes you uncomfortable, then you have to stop this immediately. At 15 years old, girls and guys are experimenting with their sexuality, and sometimes it's a strong vibe that you throw out there. Always do what is comfortable for you.
The other side of the coin is what I did. After dating a few jerks my own age (I was 15), I found a mutual attraction with one of my gymnastics coaches. We knew it, but we kept it quiet. During the summer months, we spent time together and I had a very fulfilling relationship. Being 15, romances don't last forever and we soon went in different directions. I wouldn't give those memories away for anything.
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reader, UnknownGirl +, writes (19 March 2010):
If the whole thing about him giving girls an A in the class if they wear a low cut shirt is true, you need to stay away from him. I know this is hard to do, but I've been in this situation before, and what this man is doing is taking advantage of being a teacher. Do not give him any insentive to believe you like him anymore. Just stay away from him. When I was in 7th grade, we had a teacher likes this and he was forced to leave the school because of it because he was a scum bag, which is clearly what your teacher here is too.
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reader, HurdlerHottie (: +, writes (19 March 2010):
HurdlerHottie (: is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, just recently, I found out that he is probably just like that! But to some students more than others, it's been said that if you wear a low cut shirt in his class, you'll receive an A. So, under careful observation, I believe that if I gave him an opportunity to come on to me, he would take it. What should I do?
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