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writes:I hooked up with a foreign girl whilst on holiday last summer and she's just messaged me saying she wants to meet up again. But I'm slightly wary of her.I'm 22. Me and a group of friends went on a lads holiday to Sunny Beach in Bulgaria back in July. Everything you hear about Sunny Beach is true, it is wild, with cheap drinks and the girls are up for anything. I had no shortage of notches to add to my bed post when I was there but there was one girl in particular who I knew I would never forget.After a wild night out me and my mates were heading back to our hotel when we came across this group of Scandinavian girls. We were all pretty wasted. Without saying anything one of them just jumped on my back and then told me I was hot and she wanted me. I took one look at her and needed no second invitation. Next thing you know we're back in my room tearing each others' clothes off and having AMAZING sex. She was seriously the best I've ever had. Before you ask yes we used a condom. Afterwards she told me she was from Norway but hated living there.Fast forward to last week and all of a sudden she adds me on Facebook and tells me she can't stop thinking about me and wants to meet up again, just as FWB's. Normally I'd jump at the chance but I'm just not sure about her. I don't know if its because she's foreign but I just feel like she has an ulterior motive. She tells me she's moving to the UK in January to study, which may well be true but part of me doesn't believe her.Advice?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (5 November 2015):
 ... I don't get it, what motive do you think she has? Dude, the girl just wants to f*** you. Relax though, you're not the first guy to get scared by women with a sexual appetite, and being scared when you find yourself being the pray instead of the hunter. Don't worry, just go with the flow if you liked having sex with her and don't think twice about it. What on earth would her other motives be? Dating you??? She said herself she wants to meet up to f***, and nothing else. She's moving to your country whether or not you say yes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): Yeah trust your gut. She does have an ulterior motive but its just exactly ---THAT. I mean you guys had amazing sex as you put it, don't you think she is hooked already?
She might as well be batshit crazy, sir. But then again, its always the crazies who can give it real good. So what if she has ulterior motives? Who cares? Do you care? It sounds like she wants to have more sex with you and prob even date you. We all have ulterior motives, its not a bad thing. If you smell crazy and youre not interested, just say so. If you have trust issues and need clarity, just ask her.
But if you want a fun, go for it. But if you smell crazy is and crazy goes, you can always say no. You have the power.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (3 November 2015):
 You are right nonnies!
But... it still doesn't change anything as they are part of the European Economic Area.
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The EEA agreement grants Norway access to the EU's internal market while the country is to adopt most EU legislation related to that market. This essentially means that Norway is a practical part of EU when it comes to free movement of goods, capital, services and people.
So again, she doesn't NEED a person to grant her access to move to the UK or study there - JUST like any other EU citizens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): Norway is in Europe but not part of the EU honeypie! To the poster, perhaps she just likes you, don't do yourself down and enjoy it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): Honeypie, Norway is not in the eu so she could not stay or live in England permanently.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 November 2015):
A Norwegian doesn't NEED a visa to move to England, as both countries are within the EU. Citizens of the EU can move FREELY around the EU, much like citizens of the US can move around it's states. That goes for work and education.
Not sure what ulterior motive she has, if she hasn't had your child/or is pregnant with your child.
There is a reason you feel these "warning bells" and even if you aren't sure, I'd say stick to them.
My guess is the casual ONS you has wasn't as casual an experience for her as it was for you. You probably weren't JUST another notch in her bedpost.
If/When she moved to the UK in January you can decide if you want or want not to see her.
YOU had casual sex on a vacation, you don't owe her anything for that (she doesn't owe you anything either) - so if you really feel a "odd" feeling about her, then simply tell her no thanks.
What I don't understand is if she really JUST was another lay, why add her to your Facebook? I mean if she meant nothing why on Earth would you add her?
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (3 November 2015):
Norway is a well developed country with high employment rates, good education, good wefare and low poverty rates. Though there's wealth inequality, it has a pretty big middle class. In many ways it's a more wealthy place to be than the UK. So I highly doubt she's like the cliche of a poor eastern european girl looking to marry out of poverty.
Now of course, if something about her gave you a bad vibe, then you should probably listen to it. I don't have all the information and I don't underestimate a finely tuned gut feeling. But if you're grouping her together with the "foreign country golddiggers" based on the fact she's from Norway, you are making a mistake.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2015): Maybe she is trying to look for a more permanent option of a visa for England, but you're not planning on marrying her straight away so what does it matter
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