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writes:Please don't laugh or anything, but I don't think my clitoris works. I have tried to reach orgasm through sex and masturbation but nothing works. I know where my clit is and what it is so I don't think im going wrong there. I can't orgasm through penetration either, anal or vaginal. I dont even feel anything when I touch my clitoris or get penetrated. With my partner I have to fake orgasms, though she usually notices. Its like my clitoris is numb. Please help! It would be appreciated very much!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): Definitely see a doctor if your clitoris is "numb".
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (16 December 2011):
 Hi,
I think you are trying too hard and missing what's supposed to be fun, enjoyable, pleasant. The way you describe is like you are forcing things down there to feel pleasure. You need to take slow, take your time, try different things, be romantic. Yeah, people like ruff sex, but not all the time. If it's not working try different things, different ways, buy don't be ruff or force into your clitoris. I am sure you have no problem, it's all new, seems easy, but it takes time.
Goo luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): Are you certain you're aroused and relaxed enough? The more you fret about not being able to reach orgasm, the further away you'll push it from yourself! You're still young too, and the body's sexual response takes time to develop (for women especially). You certainly don't "have" to fake orgasms - in fact, you definitely shouldn't. By faking pleasure you're neglecting your needs, and in effect, not being honest with your partner.
If you're really concerned, it might be worth having a chat with your doctor; he or she could run a test or two to set your mind at ease. I've heard that a person's histidine levels can play an important part in sexual function (histidine is an amino acid which is converted into a histamine, which is a chemical needed for sexual arousal). Your healthcare provider would be able to give you a proper diagnosis.
Try not to put yourself under so much pressure, sweetie. Think in terms of letting orgasm come to you, rather than trying to reach for it, and see if there's any improvement in the near future :) Good luck and take care x
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): You should go and see a doctor. If you feel uncomfortable going to your regular doctor, ask to go and see a female doctor. Good Luck.
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