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writes:Ok so here’s the deal. I’m gay/bi (still trying to figure that part out but at least I do like guys) So I kind of know this guy lets call him Ken and I meet him a few weeks ago at the pub, he knows my best mate, and we played darts had a few pints chatted a bit and when the pub closed we went back to my best mates house. We all had a bit to drink but not enough that we couldn’t see what the hell we ere doing or talking too. So my mate had this idea that we should play strip poker, I’m thinking yeah pretty awesome idea because I’m really good at poker, not that everyone else was; no one really under stood the rules, so we endeavoured to move on to play strip blackjack which didn’t go down to well most people got bored and only the odd sock had come off, so I suggested that we play strip snap, no one but Ken was interested so the two of us played strip snap and guess what I lost! So there is me and this guy sat in a room me in the buff and him down to his boxers… He got naked in the end, think he kind of felt sorry for me that I was sat naked in the living room by myself! Any way a few more beers and some of the other guys begin to question his sexuality (keep in mind he swears on gods green earth he is straight), so he like hay I’m combatable with my sexuality I could kiss another guy. Now at this point there are two gay guys in the room me and my best mate! So he says Dan’s a good looking guy I could quite happily kiss him, and to prove his point he does… But he doesn’t just kiss me he gives me a proper snog!So I’m really crushing on this guy at this point and he has really just turned me on by sticking his tounge down my throat, so I get even more drunk smoke a splif (which I don’t do) and throw up!!! Yeah great impression I’m giving off!!! So he sits with me in the toilet chatting to me while I’m spilling my guts… I got so wasted I passed out, and he headed off home...Then the next day I wake up remember the entire night and what happened between me and Ken. So I get his number txt him and apologise for being such a drunken fool!!! Since then I have been going out with my friends to where he works to play Laser Quest, which I really hate but I get to see him and chat…Now the last chapter in this story is that one of my other friends who happens to be quite good friends with Ken tells me he has openly discussed with her that he kind of likes me… but there is a problem with this because his best mate is a homophobe!I know this is a bit of a long winded situation but I really like this guy and its not that I just want to get down his pants (which is normally what I want to do with most lads) I want something with him, I’m just thinking it’s a bit to far out of reach? So I guess I’m asking for a bit of advice on what I should do??Do I tell him how I feel?Do I back off and try to get this out of my head or do I stick something in his drink have my way with him and move on?That last one was a joke by the way!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2008): thanks for all your advice guys... really appreciate it! Lets hope I make the right decision! ;]
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2008): I think u should just be friends with him for a while, because if he's questioning his sexuality and not entirely sure he might have inhibitions about doing anything and turn you down without that being what he really wants, also if u are really into him, not just for a bit of fun, then its a good idea i reckon to just get to know him better and let things happen naturally (which by the sounds of things they will) :)
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reader, speedcat  +, writes (8 March 2008):
he needs to not worry about his friend hes gay and eventually that will come out! so its now or later if his friend is his friend hell be there for him if not then screw him, hes not worth it. i say try and go for it whats the worst thatll happen hell say no who cares youll get over it! but he might say yes then hey lucky you,,,good luck either way.
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reader, Entirely Unique +, writes (8 March 2008):
 I would spend more time with him as friends, if nothing comes of you both you'll have a great friendship and if something does come of you then the relationship will be built on a solid friendship which is always a good way to begin any kind of relationship with someone whether it be friends or more.
If his best friend is homophobic then maybe slowing spending time with him and his best mate and proving to his mate that gay people aren't different as people just have a different sexuality.
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