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writes:Hi everyone!Well I have a pretty straight forward question so I hope you can all help me.Basically I went out with the most amazing boy for a whole year and for someone my age that is practically forever!!!!Any ways and since we have been broken up we have stayed really great friends. But every now and again we keep having spare of the moment things where we kiss and make out and stuff. Now I am going to admit I still have really strong feelings for him but I just want to move on. But it's hard because he keeps kissing me when we are on our own and he regularly tells me that he loves me. Oh also despite our age we are not to young to love. So my question is should I just carry on as we are having this weird relationship, try and distance myself a little from him or tell him I don't want to carry on like this and I just want to be good friends?Any comments or views would be much appreciated.xxx
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reader, PoliticalyLawful  +, writes (20 July 2008):
you should tell his girlfriend that he kisses and stuff with u that way u can have him, cause he obviously dosent love a girl that he's cheating on.
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reader, scrazy  +, writes (20 July 2008):
 Well, since he has a girlfriend now...HE IS A CHEATER.
Come on hun, don't put yourself through being the Other Girl, this guy is playing you for an idiot and I realize that you care for him very much, but you need to distance yourself from him.
He's a jerk, there's no other way of putting it. You deserve better then him and so does his girlfriend, neither of you should deal with this guy.
Leave him alone.
XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand what your all saying I do really want to be in a relationship with him again, but last time it didnt work because people didnt want us to be together.
But theres a brick wall keeping us appart, and your all going to think I'm a bad person after i tell you this but i need to tell you.
Well HE HAS A GIRL FRIEND!!!!!
He says he loves her to bits but then he makes me feel really depressed and jelous then he says to me he loves me and keeps kissing me and stuff and its so hard to resist once we are kissing, a few times i have rejected him and said "no you have a girlfriend" but mostly I just can't.
Please any further help would be great because please I truly love him.
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reader, xxkissxx +, writes (20 July 2008):
hey chicks,
you have already made it clear that you dont want to be in a relationship with him eventhough you have strong feelings for him
these feelings are not going to go away unless you tell him that you dont want to carry on making out with him
if you did carry on it going to make the matter worse for the both of you unless you have a chat with him
just say that you really still want to be freind but cant carry on like this he should understyand
hope this helps
x
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reader, scrazy +, writes (20 July 2008):
You have two options: Either cut the ties of this weird relationship or tell him how you feel.
There's nothing wrong with being friends, but the fact that you're trying to move on and he keeps pulling you back with kisses and -false-declarations of "I love you" means he could be just playing you for a fool.
Just remember you two did break up for a reason.
If he really does care about you, then I see no reason why you can't tell him how you feel and possibly get back together.
However, if he doesn't want that, then cut the ties because you're being used. And that's not fair to you at all.
XO
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): Think if you keep going in this situation with him you ll never get over him. Bad idea.
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reader, atlanta--x +, writes (20 July 2008):
I understand what you mean completely because when i was at the age of 15 i was pregnant with somebody i thought i was in love with but because you are still at a young age i dont think it is wise for you to carry on with this relationship.
Although it might not seem like it now but there will be other boys and soon you will be with someone who appreciates you. It doesn't sound to me like the person who you are seeing at the moment wants to be with you so why should you wait for him?
I think what would be some good advice is either to find yourself somebody else who wants to be in a relationship or tell the person who keeps kissing you to either be in a relationship with you or to leave you alone.
Hope you take the advice into consideration.
Atlanta xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2008): it seems to me it's about how he treats you in general which should suggest whether you wnat to take things further and obvs how well you know him i mean personally when i was your age i had some of the STRONGEST feelings for guys so far in my life but i dont think it was love however i seriously regret not doing anything about those feelings cause i was too shy etc. but i think that if you know him well and you trust your judgement that hes genuine and that it could work i advise take it further. if it goes wrong it's not the end of the world it's these kindof experiences which build everyone as a character and develop morals strength wisdom ok you are actually young and life hasnt begun yet youre not gonna be with him forever obvs and you could even lose a best friend but remember you should go for anything that youre passionate about even if it does go wrong and end on bad times if you have the drive and passion to put it right and if you really want this go for it- good luck :D
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reader, PoliticalyLawful +, writes (20 July 2008):
It depends how you really feel about him, if you look into your heart and for your true feelings to see if you like him or not. If you don't like him, tell him you don't wantto carry on with this strange relahionship.
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