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writes:This is long, and I'm sorry. I really don't know what to do, but i figure asking will help me get it off my chest.I'm 16 years old (17 in a week)I think I might be falling for my co worker. He's 22, and an assistant manager. Our work environment doesn't care about our social lives, so technically there would be no punishment from them if we dated... we just work in a small pizzeria anyway.let me tell you a little about him--He's very charismatic, and outgoing. But at the same time he's a little shy in the romance department.- a lot of other girls from worked liked him at some point in time and asked them out, and he denied them because he doesn't date co workers.he's close friends with a 28 year old who also really likes him, but he doesn't like her back...(28 year old is also my manager)-I've never seen him instigate flirting with anyone else.Just recently he started flirting with me, I would catch his eye, and he would just hold my gaze. He made lots of jokes, and always looked to see how i reacted. He went out of his way to talk to me. He did me favors for no reason. He was talking to the 28 year old, and he said "**** (me) is a beautiful girl with pretty eyes!" making sure i could hear him.He always calls me nice, and complains how no one else works as hard as i do. he said I was his favorite person (out of my group) to work with. he defends me, and argues with anyone who says anything bad about me. He also always shows off...he doesn't do this stuff with anyone else at work;only with me. There are a few other girls a little older than me, and they work with me, and are friends with me, but he doesn't ever talk to them.I'm really not sure what's going on. only recently he's been starting to act like this...The 28 year old seems to be getting competitive with me about this though. I think she's noticed something's up.He's been asking me about a few different movies lately, too... like what one's I've seen.I'm just really frustrated. I don't know if he's going to act on this. I think the "i don't date co workers" thing was an easy excuse not to date those girls, but I'm not sure if he meant it; if he did, why would he be flirting like this?what do you think is going on? what do you think will happen?
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reader, django  +, writes (21 January 2009):
There's sure nothing wrong with agreeing to see a movie with him and seeing where that leads you.
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reader, MommyOfOne +, writes (20 January 2009):
 When I was your age, I dated a few co workers. One being an assistant manager.(At the very beginning of the relationship, I was 17, he was 21) Its a bad idea. Really bad to date your co worker. Even if the higher ups don't mind, it just causes an upset in the work environment.
He very well may not be flirting. It may be small talk.
He may not date co workers because he has a few more years work experience than you, and by now, probably realizes how bad of an idea it is.
If you REALLY like him, just build a friendship during your employment there. Maybe someday, he won't be your manager and you can go after him!
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