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writes:The thing is i haven't fancied any girls in ages and i used to be really into girls. i still wana have sex with girls but only ones i have had experiences with in the past bar a couple. Sometimes i think i am just bi but im not sure. When i see a naked guy sometimes i get a twinge down below but i dont fancy my best mate or anything. Some of my mates are quite camp and do some strange things but they just think its kool. They pretend to bum each other and stroke each others legs as a joke, when they do it to me i dont like it, it doesnt turn me on. But they call me gay because i dont like it and this is making me more insecure. The main thing thats worrying me is that i dont feel emotionally fancying girls or boys Any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAn update: The thing is it's getting worse and worse for me. I can't sleep because when i saw a sexual act with men on tv it kinda turned me on. When i think about me and another guy it repulses me though.The thing is when i see celebs or girls that everyone else thinks are "fit" I just think they are alright and it doesn't really make me think, wow there fit. Sometimes though when i see guy celebs or just guys around i can think theyre a good looking guy, but i don't wana have sex with them. This is making me so insecure and i can't understand why i don't see girls and think wow anymore?
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reader, AskEve +, writes (15 February 2007):
 Just for the record, I don't think you're gay. You are just a bit more sensible than your friends, more mature for your age than they are. What you are feeling is perfectly normal, you're just growing up love. Lots of feelings and emotions rush through ones brains as our bodies change from adolescent to manhood.
You seem sensible and grounded. Your feelings for girls will come back, I'm absolutely positive about that, the right one just hasn't come along yet. ;o)
Eve
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks so much for the reply, it has helped so much you wouldn't know.
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I wouldn't worry, it is natural to feel something when you see any nude human body. This certainly doesn't mean you are necessarily gay or bi.
The biggest struggle with this is that usually a person such as yourself may have this question come to mind and immediately they feel they need to start exploring the idea.
Also just because you don't think you have any feelings for girls could simply mean that you have reached a measure of mental maturity where you are subconciousely telling yourself; That girl or this girl is not the one so it isn't time yet.
In any case bide your time for a bit and I am sure things will begin to work themselves out. Doc.
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