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writes:Heya, Im a young adult who has had a couple of boyfriends, and im very sure im comfortable with my sexuality. However, sometimes when I masturbate I like to think about girls. However out of that situation, in my day to day life, I really do not find women attractive in that way at all. The thought of being with one really disgusts me. Is this normal? Reply to this Question |
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): I think it is the girls reaction to what the man is doing to her that turns you on. That is normal. It's like you want to be that girl.
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reader, q1605  +, writes (14 May 2008):
 And another thing. I think it is refreshing to see a woman posing a question about masturbation and more women answering it without getting snitty. Just can you work on the timing of these things so they aren't posted in the middle of the afternoon Texas time. That a slow part of the day for me and reading susans stricts post about her becoming the girl in her fantasy makes me fantasize about if one of ya'll will becoming over to my place unexpectedly.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (14 May 2008):
well i think about girls when I slap little johnie behind the ear. Of course I am a guy. But there is more to it then that. Men just aren't all that attractive. I've been in a locker room or two in my day and I'll go up against medusa before I will face down some guys hairy back and ..well you get my drift. Women definitely got the grace and poise and all around pleasing to the eyeness. It transcends gay and straight. How many male nudes do you see being drawn in art classes. It happens but I think it's more a function of limited cash for live models then variety. They focus on women first, pieces of fruit wino's embarking on DT"s, and then marlboro men.. Thats no accident. Women lament at the lengths men go to to get a lady in bed but trust me, if we weren't out giving it the soft shoe 24/7 you would never sleep with us. I still am betting if it weren't for lawn care and vehicle maintenance, civilization would be doomed. So you think about anything you want. Nobody would have a clue what you think about if you didn't mention it. You think I want anybody to know the freak show playing daily in my head. SHAA right
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reader, Susan Strict +, writes (14 May 2008):
 Perfectly normal.
It's often far easier to visualise sex that way. I'm most definitely heterosexual, but I can see the sexiness of other women and imagine it were me being that sexy, if you see what I mean (it's difficult to describe, and I don't think that really sums it up properly). Men aren't "sexy" - they can be desirable, loveable, exciting, arousing (sometimes) but never "sexy".
Of course I can't see your particular fantasies, but I wonder whether it's you who IS that sexy woman, not you who desires that sexy woman when you masturbate. You become her. You don't "want" her.
Maybe?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2008): Well "the thought of being with one" obviously isn't too disgusting for you.
Maybe it's just a little fetish?
I think even straight people fantasize about the same sex. I wouldn't know because I'm bisexual, but I have heard it's extremely normal.
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reader, les + ♥, writes (14 May 2008):
What thoughts do you have about girls?
I think its perfectly normal to be turned on by any sexual act, wether between boy and girl, girl and girl, or boy/girl by themselves. If you were watchin girl on girl porn and became turned on by that, I'd say its more of a response to a sexual act being performed than you being turned on by two girls with each other. Similarly, if you were watching a girl with herself, I would say the same thing.
Maybe you're just thinking about the sexual act (and its easier to picture girls b/c you are one and you can related better to that image) to turn yourself on instead of fantasizing about them in the sense that you want to be with them. Does that make sense?
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