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writes:My boyfriend of 3 years and I broke up in January. We lived together for nearly 2 years... and although we had our issues it was going well especially up until October. Then this girl at work becomes interested (which i insisted she was regardless of him saying no) He said I was being crazy. In January he broke up with me... but we still lived together... we kissed occasionally but no sex. He continued to lie to me about hanging out with this girl. Now it's March and I've cut off contact completely and I find out they are dating (they even went on a week long road trip). This has crushed me... I'm still in love with him but he keeps hurting me like this. I havent talked to him in a week and a half. But I want to desperately. I know it's silly to do so. I know I'll be better off without him and that he's an ass. Worst of all we all work in close quarters together (i've done my best to avoid them) but I know eventually I'll run into one of them. What really gets me pissed is he lied to her about still living with me. And I read in her blog that he only has time to see her like once a week (because he was spending the rest with me). Now I've cut off contact...he hasnt called and I cant help envisioning them all happy go lucky about everything. I'm miserable, now living alone, and can't move on. All I want is for him to say he's sorry... I don't want him back... but I want him to reckognize I wasnt wrong for disliking her or nagging because obviously it was the case that something was up. I guess I just need validation.I guess i just needed to bitch but also I suppose I need to know ideas and steps for getting over someone who's really betrayed everything you thought you had. And what your feelings are on the whole why people move on so fast issue. Help! Thanks.
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reader, agony_uncle_r  +, writes (24 March 2007):
theres no special formula to move on. it hurts to be dumped/ cheated on always, it will never change in life. the only thing you can do is move in time.
remind yourself of your good qwualities, it was him that was wrong, and just get out onto the 'playing field' with your mates and youll soon move on.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (24 March 2007):
 Cheer up my dear! Move on gracefully with a smile on your face...and EVERYDAY you should have a smile! If you should pass by them, don't worry, because you are a happy, beautiful lady who know's how to move on and meet new friends! I know you are hurt and this to shall pass, but, would you really want to spend your valuable time with someone who would lie to you?? And not want to be with just you?? I know you are grieving, but try, try, try to act like it didn't happen when you are around them and keep your chin up high, keep that self esteem going and you WILL make it through. Some people to me, that can move on like that...I personally think there "all" was just not in the relationship, that is probably why he could go out with someone else so fast. But right now, don't worry about him, worry about yourself and take care of yourself. I know it's hard, believe me, I do! But you CAN do it! Good Luck to you!!
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