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writes: I` ve been having an affair with someone with whom we were for a year just friends.Lately a lot of things have changed in the attidute he used to have towards me and I suspect that he is cheating on me and may be having another woman too.I`m in need of some real help cause,unfortunately,I still love him and need him.-What should I do in order to have him back?If I stay away from him for a while will this make him miss him and realize things that he is not able to realize right now or will he even get more ``connected`` with the other woman?-Please help!I`m really desperate and I cannot/don`t know what to do.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Hey Sweetie
Don't be so sad :o( i feel for you right now honey i really do but i also agree with what the other aunts have said about needing someone, that really isn't healthy for you babe you shouldn't be dependant and need someone in order to cope, to love him is fair enough and tatally understandable but don't let him think he's the only thing thats keeping you going cause he will use that to his advantage... the i just want him to like me... sure i can understand that we have all wanted our man to just want us at one time in another but this coupled with the needin him thing worries me slightly, babe you are probably just feeling a little low at the minute and ur self eteem is probably on low ebb thats the only reason your feeling like this, i wish i could just give you a big hug and say hey this is gonna be ok.. you are strong you can sort this out if you love this guy as much as you say you do have a heart to heart with him explain you were a little suspicious and thought he had other interests and its really upsetting you so you need to know where you stand if your man loves you as much as you love him he'll respect your honesty and value your feelings an help u sort this out but if not and he's cheating he needs sacking treat him like an employee failing to do the job right and sack him :o) you are strong enough to do this you can cope....
I hope my advice was of help to you in this situation :o) and good luck with it. If you ever need a friendly chat of shoulder to cry on or just more advice i'm always here for you feel free to email me anytime would love to hear from you again ..
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reader, Hot (Advice) +, writes (21 June 2006):
 Oh honey, how horrible! Your heart must be torn, you love him, does he love and feel the same way though? It could work if you were to back off a bit, you stated there that you love him and need him. Needing someone is not totally healthy, you need to be focused on other things that you get enjoyment from. Go out and enjoy spending time with your friends, take up a new hobby, try and keep a bit of distance form him if you can. It will be hard to resist the temptation of phoning/texting or seeing him. Try if you can, then hopefully he will see what he is missing, and through this you will gain more confidence. Wishing you all the best. x
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reader, .:OnLy-DrEaMiNg:. +, writes (21 June 2006):
hey there :)if you back off your only letting him think more that he is getting away with seeing someone. then again its probably not the best to go sneeking around to try and find out if he is because if he in fact insnt seeing someone else his going to loose his trust in you. Because you love him so much maybe you need to sit down with him and talk over whats going on and let him know how much you love him.
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