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writes: Hi, i've suffered with depression for a couple of years now and had such problems with social situations that i had to leave university and quit my driving lessons. My problem is that while i have been sorting myself out with counselling and cognitive behavioural therapy, time seems to have stood still for me. I have'nt progressed in my life, whereas my sister has, she has started a new job, and driving lessons. and im happy for her but she tends to put me down by saying stuff like "i'm not going to quit my driving lessons until i pass, unlike you".This is just an example of all the comments i tend to get from her. The comments just remind me of things i regret doing in the past, i wish i hadnt quit uni, etc, but i had no choice. I can't talk to her about this because she gets aggressive and i don't want to upset her. I really don't know what to do? how can i stop feeling like this?
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (11 January 2006):
 If this was your sister writing the first thing i would say is that she needs to be way more supportive of you. Depression is a hard thing to deal with in and off itself without relatives cutting you down. She may mean well but the comment you posted was just not nice...sorry.
You are taking action to remedy your condition and that should be commended. Progress needs to be solid not spectacular and in getting treatment you are already well ahead of allot of depressives.
I would suggest that the first thing you need to do is to stop focusing on the past. What's done is done. Its memory is useful only in informing us of what steps to take in the future. Maybe you should start brainstorming some goals. Maybe an Open Univeristy course? Then you should look at the steps you can take to achieve these goals. Hope that helps and you get better soon.
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