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*ully2017
writes:I still love my ex-girlfriend and I feel like she's the one for me! But I don't know if she love's me back. She made me feel like I belonged in this world and no other girl hasmade me feel like that ever. What should I do???
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reader, sully2017 +, writes (6 May 2013):
sully2017 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell that's not really helpful. I need to know what to do if I get back together with her. And I also want to know what I should do if my family finds out and they don't like it.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 April 2013):
 It's the same thing, whether 12 or 13. A two year age difference is nothing....after both of you are 18. However, at the junior high level, it's an impassible gulf. Any parent worth their parenting chops would be exceedingly protective of their young daughter, and your mom is likewise of high caliber to recognize that she is too young for you now.
At 15, you are hit with puberty hormones so strong, the feelings overwhelm you like a tsunami of emotion and desire. In her, she's going through almost the same thing. However, she is younger than you. It is a perfect storm of hormones and a lack of knowledge and self-control. It is at this time, and at this age difference, where pregnancy is both highly possible and highly dangerous.
Right now, her mind should be on one thing -- school. Studies, grades, friends. Yours should be on the same thing. However, at your age, the pressure to partner up both comes from within (your raging hormones) as well as from without (your friends and peers are talking about coupling up and exploits and things of similar and varying stages of crudeness depending on who you speak with).
If you love her, if you truly love her, you will wait. Let her grow older and wiser. Likewise, allow yourself to do the same. Listen to your family if you love her. If your love for her is enduring, and her love for you is the same, then the wait will go fast.
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reader, sully2017 +, writes (21 April 2013):
sully2017 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell she told me last night that she is 13 almost 14.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (19 April 2013):
You're 15 and she's 12 years old? Yeah, that makes sense why your mom would tell you that she's too young.
If what you have is real, then you can wait and be patient. She's 12, and that is too young to be in any kind of a serious relationship with anyone, especially one who is 15. That's how big mistakes can be made. Pregnancy? Getting really hurt? You wouldn't let a 12 year old drive a car, or a 5 year old play with a chainsaw.
She's too young right now. If you were older like 21 and she was 18, that's perfectly fine, but at your age, she's just not old enough to be serious.
Just wait some time, and if it's true love, you can see about restarting something when you're 5 years older.
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reader, sully2017 +, writes (19 April 2013):
sully2017 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIdk where my dad is and I live with my mom. My mom, my sister, my brothers, my grandparents told me to break up with her because she's 2 to 3 years younger than me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 April 2013):
 your family (mom and dad?) told you you had to break up with her? why is that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2013): Why did your family want you to break it off with her? The best thing you can do is go and talk to her and tell her how you feel. If she feels the same, she will come back. If she doesn't, then, as hard as it is right now, you have to move on.Hopefully the cheating rumors were just that, rumors and not fact. Keep you eyes and ears open before you jump back into anything because if she was cheating on you, then she is most definitely not the one for you.And please, work on yourself and your confidence. You matter in this world, and you should not be defined by a girl. You need to be happy with yourself before it will be right with any girl. Do not depend on others to find your place in this world and to be happy. It's tough enough out there... the best to you.
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reader, sully2017 +, writes (18 April 2013):
sully2017 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell my family was telling me I had to so I broke up with her and I was also told that she was trying to cheat on me. I want her back so badly. I just don't know what to do about it!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (18 April 2013):
Well, does she have another boyfriend? Why is she your ex? Who did the breaking up, and why? Do you have a girlfriend now? How long ago did you two break up?
Can you give more information, because it's tough to advise you without knowing what's up!
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