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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi there,I was with my boyfriend for 5 months, he was my first proper love and the guy i lost my virginity too and we were head over heels in love however, towards the end we argued all the time and due to his confusion on whether he'd want a family etc in the future if we did get that far, he ended it because he didn't want to let me down later on if it turned out he didn't want kids and he was worried that we'd argue all over again. I wanted another chance but after talking to his pesimistic friends, he changed his mind. Anyway two and a half months on, we have seen a lot of each other, spoken a lot this past week and a half and it's been so easy and we've got on so well. Only, it's made me miss him terribly and i think he hopes to see me too. My parents and a few friends are against the idea of me ever going back to him but i love him so much and i thought i was over it but no i know i would love to try again but in secret (temporarily) no friends, no parental influence, just us and see how we go from there. Because i personally did feel very pressured by others opinion. But should i tell him, should i wait a while longer or should i let it go and move on?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 If that is how you are feeling well then be honest with him and tell him, the worst that can happen is that he says no and then you can move on knowing that you tried and you have no regrets. It is always hard to try and be friends with an ex more so your first love. So talk to him and tell him how you feel and see if he wants the same thing. Its a good idea not to have other people involved. It is also way to early on for you both to be thinking about children. Just enjoy the present. People change all the time and am sure you will both be different in the future.
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