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writes: ok basicly i was with this guy for about a year when i was 15..things kinda just fizzled out and we moved on (thats how i had remembered it)...we hadnt spoken for 2 years then one day i see him in town walking and everything kinda came back... i was goin to let on but he was with his friends.So months went by and now there are four guys that like me and who i did like...you could say i lead them on.Anyway i decided to take it upon myself to get in contact with my ex because i couldnt stop thinking about him so i went to the gym where he used to work and sure enough he was there... i acted surprised and 'omg you still work here' and we exchangd new numbers and everything was very polite.He invited me out to dinner and we had a fantastic night but things were still on the friends level with a bit of flirting...since then he's made it clear he likes me etc. However when i told my friend she reminded me of all the bad things that we went through, the way we broke up, how i was devestated and i suddenly remembered all the bad things..and there were alot. so what do i do? take a risk and continue with him or make it clear i like him as a friend as to avoid any more heart ache? also how do i tell the guys that i've lead on that im not interested and not hurt them? i did like them but now my ex has come along i dont want any one else...
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reader, bridget +, writes (9 March 2006):
 Hey there Anon,
Hope my friendly advice helps you pet..
First of all..Its only natural for old flames to light again even the worse breakups can go on like a house on fire..and keep in mind that (in your particular case) its not such a bad thing to go back with your ex boyfriend and only YOU can decide that, you are the one that he likes..
From what you are saying, he obviously likes you aswell and maybe wants to make a go of your realtionship again, Maybe he was testing the water with you when the flirting was going on!
As for the "way you broke up", well thats life and it cant be all laughs and rosiness all the time.. And its healthy (believe it or not) to argue about things even if they cause you to part for a few days.. If you didnt argue then its a cause for concern..
If you have doubts that there was alot of "bad things" then they were bad at the time, yes, and maybe if you get reminded in a similiar way what happened between you both its also hurtful, but things happen for a reason..
Maybe you needed a break..
Maybe you were supposed to see him in Town...
He sounds keen and so do you, so try it.
As for the other boys you lead on..dont feel bad they were maybe "Rebound Guys".. Mr Remind Me isnt your ex so take a plunge..
As for your friend..you will get negative opinions but in the end its up to you pet..
Hope it helps
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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