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writes:okay so, ive been texting / meeting this guy for a couple of months now and things are going well, he's great such a nice guy so funny. he's told me that he's likes me but I told him a few weeks back that I don't want anything serious which he understands.recently I've been growing my feelings towards him, I'm mentally attracted to him but just not sexually, I'm not even interested in sex i just think he's so lovely! he's been there for me even as a friend as I have a lot going on (my dad is suffering from a terminal cancer) so I really think highly of him. we're always going out for food and even my best friend and his friends tag along so it's not like a date or anything.I told him a few days ago whilst I was a bit tipsy I have some feelings for him but now I feel like it's going a bit awkward but he says it's defiantly not, I just don't understand what I want, or even feel? what do I do?many thanks! I see him more as a friend, a good friend but there's a spark there, but not that much of a spark?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 February 2016):
 Look you told him straight out that you don't want anything serious, so you where honest with him. Your head is all over the place at the moment, and you need your friends at a time like this to support you. As long as you are honest with him then just go with the flow and see what happens. You may develop sexual feelings for him down the line. Don't put to much pressure on things. Just take it the way it is and see what happens.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 February 2016): You told him you just want to be friends and it sounds like he was OK with that. That is a good way to begin any relationship. But if you are just friends, you should not get drunk and flirt with him. There is nothing wrong with just being friends forever - but be true and honest - don't send mixed messages. You should keep everything "just friends" until you are absolutely sure you want to move to "intimate friendship". And it would be OK if that never happened...
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reader, Denizen +, writes (18 February 2016):
 I think you are messing this poor guy about as you aren't being clear. He probably thinks he has a chance. I think you should do the slow let down. Gradually stop texting and back off the meetings.
You are going to lean on him more and more through your dad's illness and it's just not fair. If he's a decent guy then treat him fairly.
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