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writes:My name's Summer. I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months now. In my past relationships, I was abused, cheated on...and lets say I haven't got the greatest trust issues. Latley I've been having all kinds of dreams about him. Such as him cheating on me.. to the point where I actually see him sexually active with another woman. I wake up scared, and full of anxiety. This just makes my trust worse! Can anyone help me? or tell me what my dreams mean?-thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 June 2007):
Its understandable you have trust issues because of whats happened in your past, however they are in the past, this means you DO NOT have to suffer from them any longer. And you shoudlnt. Seek professional help from a counsellor could be very helpful. They can help you talk about your isssues of trust and work out ways to deal with them and move on from them. Us people hear at Dearcupid can not do that for you as we are not experts.
As for what your dreams mean, they do not indicate what will happen. Often what we fear is what we dream about. I know that often happens with myself. And yes it does make it exstremely hard in real life to cope with because you have actually 'seen' it happen (in your dream) it makes it seem so real and makes your fear even worse. Thats why its important to talk to someone about this. If not a counsellor at least try talking to your bf about your fears, maybe he can reassure you. Or even to a friend. Just being able to express your fears verbally to someone who is caring may help reduce your anxiety a bit and get rid of those dreams.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2007): I'm no Joseph but you say you have "the greatest" trust issues, so it's very likely you are playing out your fears in you dreams. Are you able to talk to your boyfriend about these fears? Emotions often come out in dreams when you aren't able to express them in waking life.
I am guessing you have a lot of hurting feelings going on and if you can't talk to your boyfriend, what about a counsellor or close friend?
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reader, DIE-romantic.  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Hmm, well this is a hard one. Well its totally understandable you having trust issues! I would as well. Well, these dreams probably dont mean anything, yet i wouldnt be too certain, ask him about it, gently, tell him about your past relationships if you havent already, if hes any sort of decent boyfriend he will understand and reassure you, and he wont take it the wrong way or get huffy. I hope ive helped in some way.Good luck. :] xxxx
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