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writes:Is it fair that I always do oral sex to my husband until he gets to the climax without even asking if I want him to do it to me too or have the real sex either. I don't directly ask him to do it because I feel like he should have known it as a man,that he must satisfy his wife as well.Sometimes we do have real sex,but I'm not really satisfied because he easily gets tired. I feel like he enjoy more the oral sex than the real sex. I'm really disappointed and unhappy about it.
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reader, The13th_Floor  +, writes (24 February 2011):
"I don't directly ask him to do it because I feel like he should have known it as a man."
Wrong. We as men get comfortable in relationships after a while and eventually forget about the passion behind sex coupled with the need to please the woman. Why not tell him again? If he still doesn't listen, he'll regret it.
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reader, The13th_Floor +, writes (24 February 2011):
Without a sexual attraction or sexual gratification on both ends, it's not really a relationship, is it? Sexual attraction is just as important as emotional and physical! You NEED to talk to him and tell him that you're unhappy. Think about it, if you can't get what you want and deserve in bed from him, you'll eventually start looking for it in another guy, I assure you. If he's not taking you seriously, you're going to have to tell him that your relationship is on the line. Communication is key.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker  +, writes (23 February 2011):
 Well nothing can be forced you know, and if a guy won't do oral, he won't. But you do have a right to receive pleasure through normal penetration. This is an unfortunate situation. Have you thought about counselling?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): I know I am only 16, but that is not cool. You are young, and I am assuming he is too, so maybe there is a medical issue your husband wont adress with regards to his inability to satisfy you. I am giving him the benefit of the doubt here majorly, but ask him about it. He insulted you when he laughed, maybe this is an oportunity to be childish right back. Ask him "is your dick broken, or are you just incapable of keeping it hard long enough to get me off?" maybe with his manhood in question he will get the point. If not, you deserve better than him. You are still a young woman, go after what you really want, becuase there is someone way better for you than him. Best of luck girl, kick his ass for all of the women with the same issue!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for the advice guys. I do really appreciate it. He asked my why do I feel mad and told him that I don't get enough sex or real sex.He just laughed out loud at me saying that I'm crazy and how could I ever say that.Well last month we just had 3 real sex,and I was not satisfied because the first one was he easily got tired and his private part got shrunk along the way,and the second one took only just 3 minutes,I guess. The third one was better. However,this month we just had one real sex and I hadn't got the climax..You think it is right to laugh out loud to your partner when you heard her saying she's not getting enough sex?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI actually told him,after his climax that i need to be satisfied too.This happens not only once. He just answer me that he is tired and he thought that I enjoyed it as well.I always got the same answer every time I do the BJ.Means to say I made him aware already that I'm not happy doing it alone.But he's still doing it.
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reader, Abass Abassi  +, writes (22 February 2011):
talk to him and ask him to fullfill ur urges. he is not mind reader. communication is crucial in a relationship.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 The only way your man is going to know that he is not satisfying you, is when you tell him!
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reader, Battista  +, writes (22 February 2011):
You need to talk to him about it. Not asking him to satisfy you because you think he should already know is not going to get you anyway, and is also an unfair assumption to be making. He probably assumes that because you don't say anything you aren't bothered. Unless you speak up for what you want things aren't going to change I'm afraid. He is your husband, not a new boyfriend. Sit down and have a frank discussion about what is making you unhappy. I'm sure he would much rather know and do something about it than blithely go on without realising there is a problem. You are both adults, so you need to sort it out like adults. This means communication, not mind reading.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (22 February 2011):
 Have you tried talking to him about it or asking him to do it? He's not a mind-reader.
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