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writes:hey,I've been chatting to this boy for about a month now, and about a week ago, we went out on a date together. We spent the whole night kissing and have since been out again, and arranged to go out again.Everything seems to be going really well, he's an amazing kisser, we have lots in common and I find him incredibly attractive.However, I'm 14, and about to go into my 4th year of secondary school, whereas he's just about to start college.I'm also going away for 4 weeks during the summer holidays.I really want to have a future with him, but am not quite sure whether it's plausable. Should I discuss it with him, if so how should I approach the subject? Help would be much appreciated.x
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reader, Midge +, writes (13 July 2007):
 Okay you are only 14 and I guess he must be about 17/18 or so. At that age, I would suggest you put that thought on hold, for no other reason than there is a fair age difference and at his age he will becoming sexually inquisitive and you are too young for that kind of relationship.
He may be a perfectly nice boy, and I am sure he is, but you are sexually not mature enough to have a sexual relationship with any boys. You may feel that you dont want to either, but you dont want people to put pressure on you either to do something that you may regret later. Besides if you and he did have sex, he could possibly be done for raping a minor.
If you want a relationship with this boy, and he is worth it, wait until you are old enough to make adult decisions. If he feels the same way about you, he too will be happy to wait for you to be "an adult". You only really have two years to wait. In the meantime, you can remain friends and have a good laugh, learn about each other, and know them first before you make any big decisions.
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