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writes:I have done something to break the trust I had with my girlfriend, I lied about something from the start of the relationship which was important. I love her to bits and it's easy to tell her I wouldn't lie to her again and it would be different but she doesn't believe me, which I understand. She told me if there was a way I could prove to her it would be different and it wasn't just words she might take me back. I just can't think of what to do, I'm stuck Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2007): Is it easy to tell her it would never happen again? Lying is always easier than telling the truth... at the time that is... which is more than likely why you lied in the first place. So telling her that it won't happen again will never be believed. The only way around it would be to pour every little thought you have and action that you make - to try and prove that nothing will be kept from her again... even if you know its something that she won't like or may hurt her briefly. She may then see that you are trustworthy and tell you to quit telling her every detail and just to tell her the truths that affect your relationship with her.
Its hard to give suggestions though without knowing the extent to which you lied. Most things can be forgiven, but never believe they are forgotten my friend. To forget is to make the same mistakes over and over again. The quote should be "Forgive and Learn" not "Forgive and forget". If she cannot forgive... then let that be the heartbreaking lesson for you.
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