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writes:All opinions needed and welcome....and sorry for the lengthy read.So I had been in a LDR for 3 years and then in April he dumped me because he became depressed. It took me a couple of months to get over it but I managed but I still love him.Well im actually moving to his country (Canada) and I asked if I could move to his town because Im going over alone and I'll be there for 2 years minimum and hes the one person I still trust with my life and at least I could go talk or chill out with him ya know, so that was kool and that was where I was going to go to begin with at least.I was talking to him a few nights ago and he said his plans may be changing...his uncle may be giving him this awesome job opportunity where he can travel around canada with his uncle doing some job but just for one year. and then he said after that one year he is going to go to school to become a paramedic. I am sooo happy for him because he has now found himself, which is why he got depressed in the first place because he didnt know what he wanted or where he was going and now he does and that makes me happy. However its weird because I got over wanting him even though I still love him and in a split second I fell fully back in love with him and wanted all over again. I think because the way I managed to get myself over wanting him was because I said I needed someone with goals and drive and who wants to do more with their live than sit and play games all day...and that was the only negative i had for him because we are amazing together and yeah its stupid but we make a perfect couple on so many levels. but now he has the drive and determination to better himself and thats the last piece to making him mr.perfect.I want him back...ive never had a feeling hit me so fast in the way it did and i ended up telling him about it last night. and asking him if he would take me back to which he replied with well it would still be kinda hard since he MAY be workin with his uncle. to which i was like well what if when you get confirmation and if you are doing this you tell me where your gonna be at and i travel with u...but would that be stupid of me??I will definately be over there for 2 years. And I adore travelling...Ive wanted to travel around canada for the longest time and this is like an opportunity to do it. But also an opportunity to see if me and my ex can work things out and be together as a couple. of course it would be hard for me to try find jobs depending on how many places he actually goes to but my first year there was always going to be random work wherever i could get it...and im one of those people who is willing to work for my money regardless of the job.but i want to know is this stupid of me? should i do this? like if he works with his uncle should i seriously try travel with him or should i ignore this and move somewhere else because in all honesty if he does this for a year i will not be starting off at his home town, id have to replan everything anyway.Im kinda confused about whether this is ok or not. Im looking at it currently as an awesome way of me being able to travel and see new places and new people and do and try new things as well as making things work with the one I love but also because we'd be moving every so often it would keep our relationship fresh because we could go to different places all the time so we could keep it exciting for a year and unpredictable (even though im already an unpredictable person)help...just advice id be soo grateful and thanks for reading.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 do not base your decision to go over there on him.
do not count on him as a companion for your trip.
it does not sound to me like he's willing or ready to make the commitment to you for this 2 year time period.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (10 October 2011):
 It sounds to me like you are chasing him... THAT is a very likely recipe for disappointment. I suggest you make you life on your own and don't give him a second thought until and unless HE initiates contact with YOU......
Good luck....
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