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writes:So I'm in a bit of an awkward situation. A little background. My ex and I were together for what would have been two years next month. We broke up nearly 8 months ago but were on and off until February when I cut off all contact. He broke up with me, he couldn't decide how he felt any more, and I still love him. I was a complete wreck after the break up, but I'm doing everything I can to try and get myself back together again. I've been taking care of myself and seeing a therapist.So it was a real shock to me when I started to like this guy at work. I've known him since November but never really saw him that way until now. For the past couple of months he would randomly text me to say hello. On my birthday he text me at midnight because he wanted to be the first one to say happy birthday. At work he would go out of his way to see me and talk to me even though he works in a different department, so I started to fall for him. I asked him out to coffee and he said yes and we ended up talking for over three hours. We found out we had so much in common. At the end of the night he gave me a big hug and said he couldn't wait for us to work together the next day. Then work rolls around (Saturday and Sunday) and he barely spoke to me. On Sunday I ended up getting the courage to write him a note telling him that I liked him and that I just wanted to be honest with him. I gave it to him before I left. He text me today and said "I like you and we have a lot in common but I want to be friends. I'm sorry" I told him it was fine and that it wouldn't be weird between us or anything and played it off like it wasn't a big deal or anything when in fact I'm extremely hurt and confused.He is the first guy I've really liked since my ex (and I've had a couple of offers and said no) and everything he said and did around me told me he liked me too. Even co-workers who had no idea I liked him asked me if there was something between us because of the way he always acted around me.So I'm wondering, did I read him completely wrong? Am I missing something here?
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reader, Ginalolabridga  + ♥, writes (21 April 2009):
 He just wants to be friends with you and i think he has backed off so as not to give you any impression he wants anything other than friendship!
At least he is honest with you, and i know you will feel confused and hurt to say the least here, but if that is all he sees you as then you need to accept that and don't allow it to ruin that friendship because he may turn out to be the best friend you could ever have sorry!
Gina
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