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writes:Okay, so I'm kind of seeing this guy from school. I say kind of because we're not officially a couple, I have no idea what we are! We don't talk about it much, and I don't really want everyone to know anyway, my friends wouldn't approve although my mother would! He is really lovely, we spend a lot of time together but it's not going anywhere. We haven't discussed it at all. We're getting more intimate now, I stopped it at Christmas for a month but we're back on now. But my doubts are back. He flirts with my best mate. He occassionally ignores me for her, which hurts, A LOT! I don't know if she is interested or not, she doesn't know about the 'thing' we've been having - and are continuing to have. Should I call it off? Is it worth going through the hurt of him talking to others whilst always relying on having me around to 'have fun' as he calls it? We're not sleeping together or anything, I do retain a little self respect, however we are getting closer. Also, he is moving away in a matter or months, so I would rarely see him. I reckon that's probably a good thing, although it pains me to say it. I really, really like him and when we're together he seems to like me too. That could be because of 'the fun' we're having though couldn't it? :\ How do I know if he wants me for me or just because he can have me and 'I'll do'? And is it worth continuing? I'd love to be his girlfriend, but I have no idea if he'd have me. Do you think he is ashamed of me? It was him that started us talking and started our thing, but maybe he's bored. Now that he doesn't have to chase, perhaps he's lost interest? Sorry for going on! Any advice you could offer would be HUGELY appreciated! Many thanks x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 March 2010):
 If he is going to move away , you cannot expect much from this relationship.
You could just enjoy those moments with him when he is around and be happy .
Take whatever the day brings and don't put too high an expectations from him.
Broaden your outlook so that he will not be your only main focus . There are so many interesting things to do ,see and feel.
Go out with your friends and have fun.
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