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writes: My wife and me have been fighting a lot lately. We had another fight, it got so bad. I yelled out 'I WANT A DIVORCE'! I upset her so much she stayed at a hotel (she didn't tell me which one.) I honestly didn't mean it. She won't answer my calls. What should I do?
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reader, shandygirl  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 First of all honey, when you argue with your wife, NEVER again say things like: "We are done.... I want a divorce....I'm leaving...or I don't love you anymore". They are huge "No-No's".
I know when you are angry and in the heat of the moment, you want to say things to hurt your wife, or you may even feel really negative things in the moment. But if you say these things enough times, it will desolve the love between the two of you. It may be hard to do, but try to think of the consequences of your words and actions, even when you are angry.
As far as what to do NOW that she is in a hotel, wait at few days to let her think about things. Someone HAS to know where she is. When you find her, give her flowers and a sincere apology, and explain to her that what you said was only because you wanted to throw a painful dart at her, to hurt her feelings. If you LOVE her, TREAT her as though you do.
Take care XXX
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reader, BigSis  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 Just to remind you all, this is a duplicate thread. See link below.http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-upset-my-pregnant-wife-and-now-shes.html
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reader, SpeedyCakey  +, writes (6 October 2008):
 So you said something you didn't mean to your wife. It seems she took it pretty badly to want to stay at a hotel. Give her time, because time heals wounds. Waiting is painful, but could be worth it. When you see her next time, tell her that you honestly didn't mean what you said, and that you weren't thinking straight.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): How many hotels are there.Get a list.Short list it to the hotels that you guys can afford.Use a phone dir.Call up each and every hotel.Once you find out where she is go beg on your knees for her 2 forgive you.if Divorce was the answer to all marital problems no one would be married today buddy!
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reader, playergirl145 +, writes (6 October 2008):
just leave her alone for now. she needs time to see what really happened. she will forgive you in time. just wait for her and dont give up hope. in a week or 2 if she still doesnt call you or talk to you call her. i hope it all turns out well for you.
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