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30-35,
*nimalia
writes:I'm an almost eighteen college student and until about three weeks ago I had never even been kissed. However, that was when I met my current boyfriend. We had sex the first night we met (yes I know how easy that makes me sound) and because I had no room mate he moved in with me the next day. It sounds like we moved really fast but I was honestly enjoying it until my parents found out. Now they both think I'm moving too fast, they're both worried, and my mom has threatened to drive up here if I don't answer my cell phone when she calls. Additionally, my mom has arranged to have a staff member talk to me because she got really mad when she couldn't reach me for a whole day. The problem is not me and my boyfriend, I'm fine with what's going on between us, but my parents and the fact that I now feel horrible for worrying them. Please, I know this is just a hard situation but I could really use some advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2008): I am 47, and have a daughter, who is now 26. If she had done what you have done, I would be freaked out too! MOVING WAY TOO FAST MISSY! No wonder your parents are upset. Ok, damage control..you say you're ok with the boyfriend. Why don't you invite your parents up and meet your boyfriend, spend some time together? If he's a nice guy, and you are happy and they see that, it might relieve their minds. Also, don't make your mom call you all the time ok? Call her sometimes, let her know you're ok. MOMS WORRY! Moms worry even when everything is ok, so try to relieve your parents mind ok? And don't expect them to be thrilled about you living together with your guy, because you're very young, and I definetely wouldn't have been happy about my daughter doing that at your age.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (16 October 2008):
 Hello, my darling...
Well, your Mother is worrying from the right place in her heart. You and your boyfriend are moving EXTREMELY fast!! It would be easier if you were a little older and doing this kind of thing.
I suggest that you find yourself a female roommate but keep the boyfriend. Seriously, moving in with a fella you're dating can get really messy. Especially since you two don't know each other at all. It seems like you're really excited to be in this new relationship, it is a fresh experience for you, but I think that any seasoned dater will tell you that moving in with a fella is best done when you really KNOW the guy. Dating is the fun part, you move in when it gets super serious and you're ready to take the next step with each other. You're missing out on the fun beginning of a relationship!! Let the guy court you a little bit!
Explain to your Mom that you're nearly an adult and that you'll make mistakes, but you just need your Mom to support you and love you, not judge you and get so intrusive. I also think that getting a new roommate will put her at ease.
Think about it!
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