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anonymous
writes:A few months ago I was caught by my partner sending hot and heavy texts to his bestfriend - who was also my good friend. Nothing happened other than the text messages and my partner and seemed to have gotten over it, but out of no-where tonight he started talking about it again. I think that he's only pretending to have gotten over it. I don't know what to do, there's nothing I can say or do that will make up for what I did but I honestly don't know whether we can move on from this. Can any one give me any advice, I've got no one that I can talk to because all of our friends know each other and neither me or my partner want any of this to be common knoweldge. Since my partner found out about the texts he hasn't spoken to his friend and I can't talk to him because of what my partner would think, and I do miss my friendship with him but it would be worth losing my friendship if I thought my relationship had a chance. Thanks
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reader, molly4  +, writes (27 July 2008):
 Why did you send the texts? maybe you need to talk to your partner about why you sent them, was it seroius or jsut for fun? If you were bored with the relationship, maybe you should jst move on or you are just torturing your bf. Imagine if you caught him doing the same thing to you?
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reader, TheHelpfullone +, writes (27 July 2008):
 What i would do in your situation is first decide which one of the two matters the most in your life as due to what has happened your partner obviously will not forgive the friend.If it's your current partner and he is the one bringing all this up again , reasure him that it was a silly mistake and will not happen again, but you will need to cut all ties to the friend if you do this, as things had progressed further than a normal friendship with him, and regardless of what people say it cannot go back to how it was once this has happened. And if the partner realised you was still in contact he would totaly lose all trust in you.Also you need to ask yourself why you was sending these texts in the first place, is it because something your partner has done wrong ?, or you are bored with the relationship ?. if so then maybe you need to think of ways you can both improve your relationship as its down to both of you to work on it.Hope this is some help
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