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writes:Last week I went away for five days to visit some friends. During those five days, I missed my boyfriend terribly. I cried every night I was away because I missed him so much, and we were always texting or phoning each other.But now i'm back, it feels a bit strange. It's like i'm distant or something, and he's even getting a bit upset about it as he thinks something happened whilst I was away.Nothing did, I would never do that to him, but I can't explain why i'm being like this. Do you think it may be because I got sort of used to not seeing him?It's not like it was before I went, but I can't see what has changed.What shall I do? I really don't want to mess this relationship up.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (14 December 2008):
 You spent time away and figured out that he doesn't have to actually be near for you to enjoy yourself. That's right, your happiness doesn't depend on him. Now that you have concluded this you feel different. Your relationship has gone to another level, so it feels a bit difficult at the moment. Don't worry for once you two have some time together things should fall back into place.
Keep your learned experience for future reference. By the way, something did happen whilst you were gone. You evolved! Now you have grown your wings and you are ready to take flight. Remember that even when a bird flys away he most often returns to the same nest. You can allow yourself some space but don't forget to do it with caution. Don't allow yourself to push him away if you really care. Mind your actions and words. Remember that little things mean alot. The things you say and do now will make or break the relationship.
Think back to the beginning and see how much of the feeling you can recapture.Those little things that mean something special to only the two of you should be relived if possible. It will bring you back to the same spot, together. Bring him back into the *nest and cover him with Love. Your dreams can give you wings and you can fly to a place where you are loved. He will know that you still want him and if he still feels the same for you, it will all work out soon.
*Just a note.....just in case that it is he who has changed, blaming you could be a coverup. However if the change on either part isn't the problem, it's possible that he is insecure and just wants to be reassured.
So FLAP those wings girl and FLUTTER around a bit. He will be resting in your shadow waiting for you to come back down to earth. 8-)
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (13 December 2008):
 Yep. You adjusted. I think it's great that you did... you don't need to lean on your boyfriend so much. Dependence isn't a healthy trait in a relationship. Are you still attracted to him? If you still love him, and all that then I think you just calmed down and shifted into a new phase of your relationship where you don't have to be together 24/7 to be happy with each other.
If you're feeling like you don't really want to see him or like the attraction has faded, maybe being away from him made your true feelings about him more clear to you. Maybe you would be happier at this point in your life doing the single thing and traveling more, hanging out with friends more...
I think that you're just a little more settled.
Good luck!
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