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writes:Hi,I really need some advice on how best to handle this situation.Having been made redundant recently, I left some good friends behind and I feel I am grieving to the point it has affected me - I dream about being back in the same office with the same good friends. I miss them dearly, we had such a laugh and shared some really good, fun times.However since leaving I have shut myself off from them - they have been in touch asking how I am but I am unable to respond with much other than 'OK' etc.I feel numb, I also feel they are only in touch to be nosey about what I am doing with myself to gossip to other ex-work colleagues, yes I am naturally slightly bitter that they kept their jobs etc. but why do I feel I miss them, which I do, yet on the other hand what is the point in keeping in touch when I will probably never see them again? I am in such a quandary what to do. These friends have now stopped all contact with me now due to my lack of response. My life has really been turned upside down. Reply to this Question
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reader, Been there Now over it  +, writes (12 December 2015):
You say these are "good friends." Why would you leave good friends behind just because you shared a job with them? That really doesn't make any sense.Good friends are difficult to find! Most of us don't get very many in a whole lifetime. You'll feel much better if you see them again. When you do, give a short apology and let them know what was going on with you. They'll give you a lot of respect for doing so and they may even become better friends.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (12 December 2015):
 Why are you never going to see them again? Lots of friends from work and ex-colleagues, meet up for a meal and a good chin-wag after work. Pick a place that is convenient for everyone and which won't break the bank. Don't be defeatist. Start emailing everyone now.
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