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*cdcutie
writes:hello! I am 23 years old woman and I come from a traditional family background. Four years back i was dating a guy who was sweet and really loved me lots ,well I too started to like him and we dated for two and half years.I was totally committed to him but I was unhappy with him maybe because I didn't really love that guy and I never felt any spark out of that relationship.While i was in relationship with him I met a sweet guy on Facebook and we used to talk every single day and we both were kind of smitten with each other.To cut the long story short I left my then Boyfriend for the new guy but I didn't tell the new that I had a past history and that I betrayed someone for him!.We got really close and the new guy started to love me like crazy and got really possessive of me,at first it was kind of sweet but now its two years we are fighting like every other day and after every fight we would not talk to each other for weeks!!!.I was also guilty of betraying and cheating on the person who loved me before and literally begged me to not go when i was leaving him !!After a year of my breakup with him I contacted him but he never wanted to talk to me,so now two months back he contacted me and we talked and I told him that how much I am sorry and I really miss him.My boyfriend found out my phone history and he was really shocked but he just found out the history of my call and messages logs and I had to explain him who the guy is and my boyfriend started to cry and he would just not believe whatever I told him.It is a kind of cheating and My boyfriend is kind of dead from inside ,I am upset and I don't know how will i make things better between him and me because he says he doesn't wanna leave me but he wants me to answer his questions and he wants me to heal his wounds..He also said you could've buried the past but you chose to contact him when we weren't going strong and why I didn't think of him and our love,but i was only sorry and i just contacted him because of my guilt.Now I am in a mess and I think my boyfriend would never be able to trust me again.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (1 July 2013):
 You own up to it, admitting that you should not have contacted your ex boyfriend. What you miss, probably is a calm relationship without fights, and not necessarily the person who was boring for you. You tell your boyfriend you have concerns about this relationship because you are fighting too much, and you hope there is a way to resolve conflicts without hurting each other's feelings. Don't be too afraid of losing your current boyfriend, because passion can fade one day and what you are left with is each other's incompatibility. You tell him what he needs to know. That you want peace, you have no feelings for your ex (if that's true), you would never go back to him. All other details you don't have to volunteer even if he gets too nosy. If he can't handle this situation and keeps on obsessing then maybe you are not right for each other.
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