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writes:Is the saying 'If you love someone set them free - if it's meant to be - they will come back' - true ? I broke up with my bf for the wrong reasons and have hurt him, i miss him greatly and love him sincerly, when we were seeing each other he told me he had never felt the way he felt about me with anyone else before ever. Now he wont talk to me, and ignores all my calls, texts, emails, i know i have messed up but i don't know what to do can anybody advise me on the best thing to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): One guy I dated once told me "never apologize to a guy." And while he turned out to be such a piece of sh.. it is the best advice any guy has ever given me. It doesn't literally mean that you should never take the blame for any of your mistakes. Of course not. If you accidently burned a hole in his shirt or something, of course you need to say your sorry. You know what I mean?What he meant was that when you make "mistakes" like this, stick by your word. At the moment you didn't think it was a stupid reason to break up with him. Right? And now you regret it. Well don't let it show that you regret it even if deep down you think you are wrong. Not yet anyways. Just stick by your word! Even if you were wrong, trust me, let him call you! No matter what! Don't feel sorry for him. Guys love strong women and they know we are not perfect anyways. We are bound to do stupid shit like this. But even so. You have GOT to let him call you and apologize for what he did or didn't do. And once he does, THEN you can tell him that you are sorry too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2007): Thanku for that, we were together for a length of time and yet we have been split for less than a week, it has been very difficult letting go i have bombarded him with messages etc which i realise is achieving nothing and have finally stopped, i just feel at a loss by his coldness towards me and hurt due to him not acknowledging me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2007): aww hun. you are me 6 months ago. i was in exactly the same position, screwed up, dumped him for something stupid which i didnt mean, and the buggar went and ignored all of my calls and texts and started dating someone else.I actually posted on here about it cos i wasnt sure if i should text and call lots and fight for him or give him space, let him do what he wants and hope that if he had space he would come back.... it was a risk cos if i went with the first i risked suffocating him, and if i went with the latter i risked being forgotten!so... i layed it all out on the table, apologised for what i had done and explained exactly how i felt about him and what he meant to me and then said "ok i have put it all out there and told you how i feel, its up to you what happens now." then i stood back and gave him space. 2 days later we were back together.you cant make him do something, and im not saying he will definitely come back but explain how you feel and tell him its up to him but you hope he will give you the chance to make it up to him. then leave him be. and as the saying goes, if he does come back, he's yours forever if he doesnt he was never yours to begin with.best of luck. let us know how it goes
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (26 August 2007):
 Hi
I believe that is a very true thing myself!
If he feels that you let him down, he is probably angry. It depends how long ago it was.
Be strong and accept what will be will be! Thats another very good saying.
Take care.
C xxxxxx
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