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anonymous
writes:Hello.. I have addiction with masturbation since i was 13. Im 30 now but still cant stop it, i would masturbate 5-6 times everyday. It really effected my life, my health and confidence. Im jobless and still single. My life is a mess and im falling deeper in this hole. Pls help me how to stop this addiction and how can i regain my health back. Thanks.
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (31 May 2010):
 It dosen't affect your physical health directly, but it dose affect your emotional health if this is all you do. You need to also be arround people, you need people to hug, touch and love. Masterbation all the time with no other human contact makes us more lonely and alone.
You need to take up a hobby or a sport, start spending more time outside, talk to new people, find other things to interest you. As I said, you don't need to give up masterbation, but if this is your only company and your only hobby it will leave you feeling very lonely, and you won't achieve anything in life that you find rewarding.
Go learn piano, sail a boat, join a computer class, join a chess club, join a football team.. go do something that involves other people. It will make you fitter, and you'll start to make friends, and in time you will find someone suitable to love... You can't get these rewards if you are stuck at home with your penis all the time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks 4 all the advices.. For ur info i always feel lonely, and masturbating is the only thing that make fell good and happy. Probaly because i have no one in my life, my parents divorce when im still a baby and have no other siblings. I was raise by my grandparent, and my parents dont care much bout me. So everytime i fell lonely or stress out i would masturbate. Why is it effecting my health? I dont know, but it does.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (29 May 2010):
Yes babes, I would class this as sexual addiction. True sexual addiction is very rare, but masterbation 5-6 times a day seems excessive to me.
The problem is, that often we use sex to hide away from the world. When problems come, it's easier to ignore them and go for sexual pleasure instead.
You need to speak to a counsellor, but if you can't do this, then you need to keep a diary. Don't stop the masturbation, that will only make it seem more exciting and you'll want to do it even more.
Instead I want you to keep a diary. Everytime you masterbate write down the date and time. Then write down what else happened that day, what you was thinking off, what kinds of problems came up that you found to be stressful..
After a month, look back at the diary. You should see a pattern. Something is stressing you out, that makes you want the comfort of sex. When you find the thing that is bothering you (job, lack of girlfriend, lonliness, thoughts of death, lack of money, lack of confidence) when you find out what is bothering you, then say "I'll masturbate 4 times a day, and with the other minutes I would have done, I'll cut it out and deal with my problems".
An easy way to cut out excessive masterbation. You don't stop, but you find out why you find the need to release tension through sexual pleasure. Identify the pressure and tension your having, deal with the problems that come up, and then your life will start moving forwards, you'll start to solve your problems and achieve your goals, the masterbation will cut down as your "real life" starts to give you more pleasure and seems less stressfull.
Is this a plan that you think you can committ to? Make a promise to yourself today, to find a little time to achieve a goal that will make your life work better. You can steal this time from the space you usually spend masterbating.... I call this, win-win.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 There is a very good documentary about this, it's on Youtube (in 5 parts). You should watch it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gtgsMCECWnw
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2010): Masterbation is very normal and quite healthy. But like anything else, when it interferes in your day to day "normal" lifestyle, there is an issue. I dont know if you masterbate because its the only thing that feels good in your life right now, or if making the time to go do it has ruined what was good in your life. I would think for a male to start masterbating and finish up would be less than 5 mintues .. if this activity is taking up 1/2 hour of your day, I do not understand how this has affected your life to hold a job. Im sorry but I think that you have some other issues that you arnt sharing. You may want to seek some support group or some counseling. I dont think anyone here will be able to help you with such little information as you are willing to share.
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reader, Problem.helper  +, writes (29 May 2010):
 I have the same problem. but what health problems and why are u jobbles?
I masturbate a lot everyday but it doesnt cause any problems.
If u have some i would suggest to stop masturbating
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