What are we supposed to do in the Missionary position?
Q. Hello! Just a quick question. How does a woman perform during sex? I know there are various sex positions where the woman is in control for example, when she is on top. However, I am referring to the traditional position of 'Missionary' - I know...
A. 9 July 2010: Move your hips. You can thrust toward him like he is thrusting toward you. The movement might not be as large as his but he will feel it.
Grab onto him, hold his butt (some guys love it, some hate it), rub your leg on his leg, put your hands in... (read in full...)
How do I ignore her tattoo?
Q. Ok, well i have a really strong dislike about tatoos. And my girlfriend agrees with me that they are disrespectful. Well she asked me if it's alright if she gets a tatoo, im am in no way a controlling person. I told her it's fine ill just ignore it. ...
A. 9 July 2010: I think sometimes we can dislike things like tattoos not just cause we think the picture itself is bad but sometimes we tag certain things to certain people. Like in your mind tattoos might be tied to a certain kind of woman or certain kind of ... (read in full...)
What should I say to his Mom?
Q. Okay so i dont really know how to ask this question so ill just explain! :)My boyfriend is working offshore right now and he likes to give me money from his check every week maybe like 300 just so i can have money, but i dont have his bank ...
A. 9 July 2010: I would stick with a "Yep" and a smile.
One of the worst places to be put in is between a man and his mother. Almost all sons think their mom's are angels. Even when she is pretty crazy. If she loves him, he loves her. If you get in a fight wi... (read in full...)
We have no experience, should we "explore" before our wedding?
Q. Hello everyone! I got engaged to my high school sweetheart about a month ago, (we started dating our junior year of high school). I've always believed in waiting until I was married before having sex and even though he doesn't have the same belief, ...
A. 8 July 2010: I think I'm a little confused by your sisters logic. If you have sex together or have oral sex or anything like that before you have your honeymoon then that will be the first time you have sex. The honeymoon won't be the first time you have sex. ... (read in full...)
I couldn't help probe about her sexual past, but I wish she wouldn't have been so honest!!!
Q. Ok here's my problem. My gf and I have been dating for a little over a year now, at the begining of the relationship I asked the inevitable question " how many men have you slept with"?. She asked me to answer the question first, I told her 80 women ...
A. 8 July 2010: I guess I would just say realize that she is going through the same thing you are. Your guys numbers are pretty similar so that means you have probably seen much better bodies then hers, better looking vaginas, girls with better skills in bed, ... (read in full...)
Questions about the honeymoon period, and what are other couples sleeping arrangements?
Q. I have a couple of quick and easy questions: How long has the 'honeymoon period' typically lasted in your relationships? How do you normally sleep with your partners? Most of my relationships I'd go home to sleep but my current partner lik...
A. 8 July 2010: I think for me the average honeymoon phase lasted probably 4 months to 1 year.
And we sleep on our own sides of the bed. At night or in the morning we cuddle depending on the day (meaning whether one of us has to jump up to go somewhere). And at n... (read in full...)
Is it reasonable to split the travel costs of a long distance relationship?
Q. Hello, I am just about to start a long distance relationship w/ my boyfriend of a year and a half. I am moving out of the area (about a 2.5 to 3 hour drive away) for two years. I plan on coming back to the area after that. I have been pretty...
A. 8 July 2010: I think money is a sensitive issue for most people, especially men. If the person doesn't offer to pay for something, most people get very irritated at the idea that someone else is saying they should. I think men especially like to give to the ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome this situation? He won't take me back because I cheated.
Q. I have been in a relationship for 7 years. I am 25 years old and met my ex-husband who just turn 47 in a different country. We got married and after a year he brought me to US. Another year went by and he ask me for a divorce because he felt the ...
A. 7 July 2010: I couldn't agree with Ask oldsister more.
What about this man makes you want him back?
You were just legal when he married you when he was a 40 year old man. I have been with younger men and the thing about younger people is they let you do ... (read in full...)
How should a parent Criticize there adult kids?
Q. I am a mother with several children one child is adopted and is now an adult. My child is bipolar and we get along better now but there are times after we have been together for several hours or a few days I find myself criticizing her to the point ...
A. 7 July 2010: What would I do? I would rely on the teaching I gave her when she was growing up and let her be.
She is a grown woman. Nothing you say is going to make her change. The things you tell her will only make her see you as bitchy. It isn't going to... (read in full...)
Is this a sign we shouldn't be together?
Q. I've been with my current boyfriend for the past 8 years. Most everything is good in our relationship. We met in college when we were both 18. He's my first serious boyfriend and first lover. I guess what I want to know is what's normal. We don't ...
A. 7 July 2010: I think what's normal is different for everyone. Some people have sex 2 times a day and if they go down to once a day they are going to think something's wrong. But some other people would be more than happy to have sex once a day.
I think wh... (read in full...)
I hate giving blow jobs, but want to make him happy! What should I do?
Q. okay.... well my boyfriend went down on me twice in one day and then he wanted me to give him head but my parents were around so i couldn't i mean i want to and i've done it loads before but i hate even the thought of cum... i guess i never cared ...
A. 7 July 2010: Well you don't have to put his whole penis in your mouth. Even girls who have strong gag reflexes can give blow jobs cause you are really supposed to mix a blowjob with a hand job.
Cause most people can't move their mouth fast enough, so you hold... (read in full...)
How can I stop my rush to connect emotionally??
Q. A few months ago my gf and I split up. I posted a question about my situation dealing with it on here already http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-forget-her-but-ive-done.html The short, short version is that she started dating one of her ...
A. 2 July 2010: I think you need to realize that love has a huge power over your heart and so you need to be careful. Cause I don't think you have it in you to become one of those guys who just has casual relationships.
The guy I'm with now was royally screwed ... (read in full...)
Looking for a hextrosexual relationship, am I being niave??
Q. Hello this is a question that I have to ask, me and a guy i know were talking the other day (this guy hastnt been the first person to say this) he came up with the theory 'all females are bisexual' and it got me thinking... I am a 22 year old male...
A. 2 July 2010: Well I don't think the majority of women are bisexual. I think the majority of women feel sexual aroused by things that they would never try.
Men are so different then women when it comes to arousal. A straight man knows he is straight cause he... (read in full...)
Embarrassing dilemma about undressing in front of him!
Q. ok im 49 a young 49 and have a 40 yr old boyfriend.........my problem is im too embarrassed to undress in front of him!...........im on the tubby side and after 4 kids got a belly....(which i hate!) i was married to a drunk who yr after yr after yr ...
A. 2 July 2010: Your husband was a jerk who used any imperfection to make you feel like you weren't good enough to get another man. It had nothing to do with your body and everything to do with his desire to control you. I'm sure there were other things, like your ... (read in full...)
How can I tell for sure if I'm having an orgasm?
Q. Hi there! I realy need some peoples advice. Me and my boyfriend have dated for about a year and a half ( also the age on this is wrong I'm actualy 17) and when we have sex I don't know if I have an orgasm or not. I don't even know what it's supposed...
A. 2 July 2010: An orgasm is a release of body tension.
The feeling good during sex is the building of that tension. When your body can't take anymore tension it releases it in an orgasm. Tense your body up right now like you are preparing to be hit or somethin... (read in full...)
My embarrassing problem...
Q. Why do I "fart" when me and my husband are having sex? This is embarrassing? Is there anything I can do for this not to happen?...
A. 2 July 2010: I can't tell if you mean actual farting or queefing.
Either way it's probably your position. If it's farting, sometimes you get in a position where his penis is rubbing on your colon kind of. And it kind of stimulates everything there.
But ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend's actions make me wonder if he is being selfish
Q. I am trying to be patient about this.. But, I would like to know how I should be feeling and what not about this. I leave for Texas tomorrow and will be gone away from my boyfriend for 5 days. Yesterday, a friend and I went over to my sisters ho...
A. 2 July 2010: Of course he is being selfish. Anyone can see that you aren't overreacting. It sounds more like he just didn't want to do it rather than worrying about the $5 he would have to spend on gas to get you there.
And I agree with Tisha that there is... (read in full...)
Girls carrying condoms.
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and I have discussed having sex and agreed that while we both would like to have sex with eachother there isn't a pressure on either of us to do it. This is fine , however a few days ago we were in a position where we were go...
A. 2 July 2010: Carrying condoms is no more sluttish then being on the pill. They are both forms of birth control.
You are in a relationship with a guy, you have had a conversation about sex, you have gone on the pill so you guys can have sex, you were over at ... (read in full...)
Could he have given me an orgasm without my knowing?
Q. Heey. so me and my ex boyfriend are friends and we were talking about our relationship last night and the subject went to sex. he said "Did you know I've made you come before?" and i just laughed because i dont think he did... was he lying or did he ...
A. 2 July 2010: So your boyfriend never made you orgasm once in the entire relationship and now he is telling you that you for sure did orgasm but you didn't know it?! Is he reading a book on signs of orgasms or something?
I have a hard time believing if you c... (read in full...)
Why is he always falling out with me?
Q. my partner alway seems to find a reason to fall out with me and then blames me for it. the other night he totally ignored me and blamed me for being cold on bed. he said when i'm busy with other things, with family and friends i become distant. i ...
A. 2 July 2010: Sometimes the other person's needs aren't our needs. You may be given your all but not in the way he wants or needs. You may be cleaning the house from top to bottom for him but all he needs is a woman who kisses him when you make love. You may ... (read in full...)
My wife recently discovered she can not be truly happy until she has been with another woman
Q. I just recently found out that my wife has interest in other women. She said she can not be truly happy till she experience it for her self. i have given her my support but i feel like i am missing out. I am not sure what to do. if any one that's ...
A. 2 July 2010: We make ourselves happy by choosing to be happy, not because of some action we get to do.
When I met my partner, he was very much into making love and having sex be very intimate and personal. I was very much into forms of bondage and making s... (read in full...)
Do aquarius men ever forgive?
Q. disregard my age please i dated an aquarius guy for 2 years, it was rocky but full of love. now im pregnant, he says he doesnt love me and hasnt loved me for a long time now and that theres no way he will love me again. im hopeless, i love...
A. 1 July 2010: I think any human being can do anything if they want too.
Even if you believe in signs, it doesn't mean that anything you do is excused and you can't do the opposite. Even if you believe that his sign makes him a certain way, all that would me... (read in full...)
I want to be a part of my child's life!
Q. Ok, I am going to be completely honest here. I was dating this girl for about 5 months but have known her for almost 8 years and she is now 11 weeks pregnant and we are no longer together. Before we broke up, she moved to west virginia to help out ...
A. 1 July 2010: It is wise to try to protect yourself legally but anyone who has seen people go through the court system for things like child custody, child support, trying to declare someone unfit, etc, will tell you that the system has two options: slower than ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to live a life of instant gratification since he learned his mum was gay
Q. I am 21. I dated my boyfriend for 7 years and it was never an on/off type of thing. We talked all the time about marriage, kids, and the life we would have when we were older, but we didnt want to rush anything because what we had was good and we ...
A. 26 June 2010: I think it's very possible for him to come back to you but it's a very long road.
When I read the title of the question regarding him wanting instant gratification when he found out his mom was gay, I pretty much knew there was going got be somet... (read in full...)
Should I go out with him even though he used me?
Q. This Wisconsin guy who i had sex with for 2 nights, use me, left me with lots of questions in my mind and made me feel soo confuse will go back here in Philippines' my friend K who was his close friend too told me that he is still asking about me ...
A. 26 June 2010: I don't think you should contact him or meet up with him. If he deleted you from Facebook but is still asking about you, chances are he is thinking about more sex with you and that's about it. If a guy never contacts you from day to day and then all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend often makes cruel 'jokes' about me
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for two years. We occassionally have problems because he pokes fun at me and 'jokes' in very cruel ways. Two days ago he was making fun of me because of how 'ugly I look when having an orgasm.' This was the fourth t...
A. 26 June 2010: I think you have to do 2 things.
1) Pick your battles. I'm sure there are things he says that just piss you off and things he says that are actually flat out cruel. When he is just pissing you off, don't pick the issue apart cause then when he ... (read in full...)
Turban wearing man seeks honest opinions
Q. So I moved into the states when I was 10 and now that I am getting older (in my 20s) I am finding that finding love is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. My question is for all women. I am a turban wearing man with a trimmed beard. I...
A. 26 June 2010: I can't say that I have extensive knowledge of turbans. I know men in Arab/Islamic countries wear them. But aren't they mostly worn in America by Sikh's?
The reason I say that is cause that's what's in my head when I see a turban. That the pers... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 26 June 2010: I think you have the right to mourn the loss of something you wanted.
I think you wanted (like most of us) for a relationship to consist of certain things and no little girl dreams about her future partner going to prostitutes when he was youn... (read in full...)
Amnesia stole four years of my life and what I am learning of my boyfriend now, is not promising.
Q. right this is quite complicated and long so please bear with me i need advice. In April of this year i ended up in hospital having had a seizure, it turned out i had a small blood clot on my brain. the main side effect was that i got retro grade ...
A. 25 June 2010: I actually knew someone that got amnesia from a malaria medication. She lost several months of her life and couldn't remember who her fiancée was. I wish I could tell you how it ended up but I unfortunately don't know. I haven't had amnesia but ... (read in full...)
I love two guys who should I pick?
Q. *OP's Original Title* wll i have been dating my best friend for 4 months now and i can say that i love him so but i have been liking this guy for two years and he beraly let out his true feelings for me i have been hanging out with him often an...
A. 25 June 2010: Well, who you will go for and who you should go for are probably two different things.
You should go for your best friend because, well, he is your best friend. No relationship is going to be better than with the person who you enjoy their co... (read in full...)
She's a virgin. Will she get used to foreplay over time?
Q. Okay I have a few questions, I dated a girl not to long back that I lost my virginity to, she was a whore so I never really liked sleeping with her, but because of that fast, I got really good at using my fingers on her and bringing her to a gushing ...
A. 25 June 2010: It sounds like a combination of not being used to the feelings and awkwardness. Most women aren't as comfortable with their sexuality as men are. So when they first have things done to them there is just as much awkwardness as there is pleasure. In ... (read in full...)
He sitll has her number. What does it mean?
Q. what does it mean when your boyfriend of 1year and 4 momths still has his ex girlfriends number in his phoe,but say he dont call them...
A. 25 June 2010: I guess it depends on how he sees her.
If she is a insane harpie who broke his heart, he might just have left it in there and not realized it's in there till you went through his phone. Or maybe he was too busy drawing devil horns on her pictures... (read in full...)
A major decision to make...move on or get married
Q. I am in a major crisis. I am 31 yrs old about to be 32. I have always had trouble making decisions in my life and I have struggled with this and know I have to work on it. My crisis now is regarding my relationship. In a nutshell, I have been ...
A. 25 June 2010: Marriage requires consistence, faithfulness, sacrifice, and respect. Let's leave love out of it cause that's a given. Let's just talk about the above.
According to you, the man you want to marry is self-absorbed, had you move to a differen... (read in full...)
What's gotten into him?
Q. *OP's Original Title* I met this guy last year, who I got really close to and in a way, fell head over heals over. He isn't the nicest guy you could meet, he's the cocky, douche, player, immature guy who happens to be really hot! (haha) So during s...
A. 24 June 2010: What do you mean what has gotten into him?
You described him as " cocky, douche, player, immature". He is just being the jerk that you knew.
Now if he started being nice and sending you flowers and wanting to hear about your day then I could... (read in full...)
I don't get why and when I squirt!
Q. I squirted before during sex but I didn't know I was it just happened but now when I have sex I dont why do you think so? ...
A. 24 June 2010: It really depends on arousal for me. When I am really turned on is when it happens. So it doesn't always happen. ... (read in full...)
Both like the same guy, she's my friend, he likes her better? Should I move on?
Q. Me and my friend likes the same guy and he likes her (as far as I know). My friend feels sorry for me(I feel sorry for myself) and I just feel sad. I know we are only in middle school but I feel like I never can get a guy to like me... I realize ...
A. 24 June 2010: I don't think there is anything wrong with waiting to see who he choices before you move on. But the key word is "waiting". That means not let your heart move on to another guy till you feel like you are ready. It doesn't mean backstabbing, ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend might be gay! What signs should I look for?
Q. i am a bit worried about my boyfriend, as i think he is gay, been together 2 years and he tells me everyday that he loves me, he always wants sex with me most the time and he mainly makes the first moves, he kisses me alot and holds me all night, ...
A. 24 June 2010: Wow, not sure what to say to that one!
No, being a clean, finicky kind of guy isn't the sign of a gay man. Nor is a guy not liking sports, not being into just boobs, or being into fashion. Those things stereotypically are assigned to gay men but ... (read in full...)
Is he being fair?
Q. Hi there, I have a problem with my bf whom I met online last year. I'm 31 and he is 43. When we met he knew I had 2 kids, 1 who is 14 and the 18mths baby. The problem I have with my bf is he does not want my daughters father to be anywhere near his ...
A. 24 June 2010: I'm sorry but nothing in me understands this. I have kept some pretty crappy men in my life longer than I should of. I have had domineering men and clinging men. And they all are jealous guys who want you to act a certain way. But if any man ever ... (read in full...)
At 18 his father took them to a prostitute, I can't seem to get over that??
Q. Im not looking so much for an answer as advice from people who have maybe been in a similar situation. My bf and i have been together almost a year now, in that time i found out he had slept with a prostitute, before he was with me. I find this ...
A. 24 June 2010: Oh yeah, this happened to me but like triple! The man I am with now is unbelievable. He is seriously the best guy I have ever met. And he is like the most kind lover ever. But when we was younger he slept with a girl when she was drunk (I think he ... (read in full...)
Business disagreements vs. treating your partner well
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years. We run a small business together, live together, and many of our friends and loved ones refer to us as married. We try to communicate well with each other, and we believe in complete trust, and ...
A. 24 June 2010: I think you can make it right by letting him take the computer to work on occasion. It's just a computer. Computers can breakdown for a million reasons. Your boyfriend dropping it on the way to the car is just one of them. In this circumstance this ... (read in full...)
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