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writes:I have been with a guy for the past 3 years. We had our ups and downs, I'm still madly in love with him.. he obviously love me too because he gets jealous, our only problem was trust, I never trusted him because he cheated a lot, I always forgave him because I always think that I'm not his wife to control him, it hurts me but I just let it go because I know it means nothing to him and at the end of the day he comes back to me, but he's been getting on my nerves lately. I've always been loyal to him, I don't do anything wrong, I admit that I do things that irritates him.. or small things to make him jealous only to make myself feel that he loves me.. he's always accusing me of lying when I'm not and it makes me think that he's only doing that because he's been doing something wrong. I love him to death and I don't want to let go. Help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): By forgiving a man over and over again, you are telling him "it's okay and I will always forgive you, so do whatever you want. I'll be here waiting when you're done"
I know, because I did it with my ex. It wasn't other women, it was drugs. But I sent him that same message...I will always forgive you!
Your intuition is probably right about him accusing you because he is guilty. It's like a thief always thinking that people are stealing from him!
If you don't want to let go, then what do you want??? If you want to stay with this guy, be prepared for a lot of heart ache and misery!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): I don't want to sound harsh but this isn't jealously. It's a fear of him cheating again like he has done so many times. I just don't understand why you would want to be with someone who wants to be with other women. If he has cheated numerous times, he doesn't sound like he will stop. I think you need to build up some confidence and believe that you can do better.
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